Names are changed but not the actual baby names that im talking about just because but really if the people that know about this which is EVERYONE so I wouldn't care if anyone finds this post and relates it. Sorry if it's long im trying to sum things up, there's more instances my cousin has done stuff like I'm going to explain but the ones im saying are the ones that you can get the picture with. So Onto the story I female 33 have 3 of the best most handsome boys! BOY MOM, I love it! but I have always wanted a little girl and always had a name picked out for a girl if it was one. My first son if he was a girl would have been Aaliyah but after I had him I had found this name I loved Mila for a girl so I kept it stuck with the name through 2 more pregnancy's that ended up being boys but I never said I never wanted anymore kids so the name was still always there to use just obviously not now. My first two boys birthdays are 5 days apart so I had them almost exactly 2 years apart, my 2 and 3 son are a month shy of being 3 years apart.Anyways I picked this name before I even got pregnant with my second son it was just a name I heard loved and it stuck so when I got pregnant I had a boy and girl name (Mila) picked. It was a boy and then the same thing with my 3 son I had his name picked out and the same girl name picked out (mila) with him also. So the length of time I had this name for a little girl (Mila cristine) was a long time and through all of my pregnancies people would ask about names before I knew the gender and I knew the girls name 10000000% was what I picked right after having my first son.my cousin female 32 (ashley) has ALWAYS been a problem, I loved her we were very close and in our neighborhood there was 4 of us me, Ashley, tara, and Paige. Paige was tragically killed getting hit by a car while crossing the street with her bf. She is my oldest sons godmother and when he was only about 3-4 when she passed and I keep her memory especially with him alive. Ashley was always the outsider of us all and it was because for example when we would all play tag and she would get tagged she would cry and sit in the middle of the street and saying she's going to ---- herself, everytime she would come over to my house which was WAY more then going to the other kids house cause she is my cousin but I would have to tell my mom to have her put her stuff in my room so before she left my mom could distract her while I deeply went through her stuff because I realized that she was stealing from me. Anything to a stupid penndit or little baby Barbie or whatever and then it became my clothes and everytime I would find it all. We were young so I don't know what to do but to keep "stealing" my stuff back and I am not sure if it was ever addressed to her parents but her parents divorced so they moved out of the neighborhood at some point when we were little probably around 6-7 I'm not sure. I know she's stolen from our other friends also but me she did a lot she was over a lot but when she moved she wasn't over as much but still when she did come she would steal something, anything. It kind of seemed like a habit or something. She moved about 30 mins away so we knew none of the same people except our neighborhood friend group. She even started acting like me or doing stuff I did as we got older which was weird but she's my cousin so through my whole life I just stay civil steal my stolen stuff back or get it before she left. One time I got fed up and told her she better bring my stuff back or I don't care where I see you and I will somewhere you are my family im whooping your a**. I was young and didn't get in trouble but she went and told her mom and I dk what really came out of it but my mom told me to stop it and she would handle it. She stopped coming over a lot clearly and As we got older we grew apart but still talked regularly we just didn't see eachother much. But When I had my 1 son at 18 my mom cleaned the whole house top to bottom when my son and I came home we didn't have to worry about anything but baby boy and my cousin stayed the night I first came home with my son. The house was spotless and we're older I wasn't hopefully worrying about her stealing from me or anyone while she's helping me after I had my son and she has not stolen anything that I knew of in a LONG time. I was overjoyed to have her there with me to help. The next day she left and before she left I noticed the 3 things on the center island in the kitchen was my drink another drink and my sons 100$ visa gift card my aunt gave my son. We stayed in the family room that night so she could help and whatnot but when she left I went to get the card and it was gone in thin air. I looked high and low for this thing. She took it. FROM MY NEWBORN! And still like the dumbass I am let it go like my mom always said. Well now to the issue and why I may be the ah. All my boys have a name that starts with C but my girl name regardless was Mila cristine when I had a girl. My cousin has her first son that starts with an M and it's a cute name I loved it and I love him. My whole family friends and everyone knew that Mila was my girl name for sure no doubts. I have my 3 boy and haven't had anymore kids yet but my cousin gets pregnant again I'm happy for her and it's a girl. She had said she liked the name Mila but I didn't take it seriously cause I've had that named picked out for over 8 years at this point and this was 3ish years ago. I ask her what she's thinking about for names and she says a name that was really cute and then said but I'm not sure and said cause her husband likes Mila but they aren't telling people the name till she's born which made me put the pieces together right away. Now I'm not dumb this has been happening my WHOLE LIFE and I know you. It's her and not her husband that liked the name and for whatever reason I was always the target. I'd do something she would do it and we lived 30 mins from eachother. I messaged her nicely and told her to please not use Mila it's been the name I've had picked out for over 8 years. That ONE name. I told her I would be very upset and mad if she used it and why and she replied with well you better be mad cause that's what we have decided. I was pissed but not as much as I was hurt. Out of every name you can choose from you pick the ONE name I've been holding for a girl. When I have a girl I will still use the name and yes I did tell the family about it all they all think it's very ignorant and immature of her but who's going to stop her? So I stopped associating with her unless I had to at a family event. I never went to see her or her baby. And yes I love the baby that is now 3ish but I have only seen her maybe 2 times. They moved states around when she was born. She also used my matching names with c and the only reason I don't have a c girl name is cause I loved the name Mila. Although everyone thinks she's wrong for it they want me to just forgive her and let it go but 8 years and you knew. She knew I cried when I found out my 3 son was a boy, I wouldn't change it now but I had 2 boys already had her name and everything picked out so I was hopeful. But aita for not talking to her, thinking it's wrong for what she did? Would I be wrong to just cut her out of my whole life? This has been an ignorant selfish decision she made and I still plan on naming my little girl Mila one day regardless and I'm hoping that's soon💕 and I know there will be questions on why they have the same name and I'm going to tell them both what her mom did and why they have the same name. She couldn't be original she had to copy me and if it wasn't me then I'm sure it would have been someone else's name she would have taken but it's always me she copy's. It's weird to me. Be yourself. Make your own decisions be who YOU ARE NOT WHO I AM. So am I the ah for being so mad, telling everyone what she did, me still use the name? telling the kids when I have my girl why they have the same names