So I (23F) planned a little girls’ brunch with a few of my close friends, and we decided it would be dog-friendly since the café we were going to has an outdoor patio and even has a little dog menu. I love dogs and have one myself (a golden doodle named Peaches), and I just thought it’d be cute to make it a little event—everyone brings their pup, we get mimosas, etc.

One of my friends, M (24F), has two dogs—one is super cute, like a tiny fluffy white one that always has bows in its fur, and the other one… well. The other one is sweet, but she has this issue where her tongue constantly sticks out the side of her mouth, her eyes go in two different directions, and she makes this sound like she’s trying to cough up a kazoo every five minutes. I think she had some health issues as a puppy? I’m not trying to be mean, but you cannot take a photo with her without it looking like a meme.

So I messaged M the night before and casually said, “Hey, are you bringing Lulu [the cute one] or Biscuit [the… not-cute one]? Just asking because I was going to coordinate outfits and vibes.”

She asked why it mattered, and I very gently said that I was hoping she’d bring Lulu because we were going to take group pics with the dogs and I kind of wanted the aesthetic to be cohesive. Like…fluffy brunch baby energy, not whatever Biscuit is bringing to the table.

M got super quiet and then left me on read. Next morning, she shows up WITHOUT EITHER DOG and barely talks to me the whole time. Later I get this long text about how shallow and disgusting I was for implying one of her dogs wasn’t “good enough” to be seen in public. She said Biscuit has a neurological issue that affects her face and balance, and that I was being ableist (?!) and cruel.

Now some of our mutuals are saying I was out of line, but I genuinely didn’t mean it like that. I just wanted the brunch to be…cute. It was literally going to be posted on social, and I wanted it to look nice.

AITA?