I am probably gonna delete this later.

Hey, I’m kinda in a rush writing this, so I hope it makes sense. If this isn't the right place, feel free to redirect me. I’m mostly just looking for advice and yeah, I might delete this later. I’m pretty much out of friends at this point and I don’t know how to process everything.

September 2024

I started noticing a shift in my best friend, Hazel (F19). She’d go a day or two without really messaging me (F18)—not the end of the world, but it felt different. She’d also say she was going to her aunt’s house, but later I found out through Lauren (F20), another friend, that Hazel was actually with her instead. So Hazel lied.

It wasn’t a one-time thing either. She’s lied a couple of times, and I wasn’t sure if she was trying to spare my feelings or just being shady. She used to say she “hated liars,” which made it sting more.

October 2024

My little sister caught lice, and unfortunately, I got it too. I let both Hazel and Lauren know so they could check themselves. Lauren got upset, which confused me—like, it wasn’t my fault.

Meanwhile, Hazel and Lauren started getting distant. I felt like the outsider. I’d always been closer to Hazel, but even Lauren mattered to me, even though our friendship felt a bit one-sided.

November 2024

I finally asked Lauren if something was wrong. She said she was busy and didn’t want to talk. But she was talking to Hazel. That made me feel left out and kind of lied to.

Eventually, I got Lauren on the phone. I opened up about how I was struggling. She was polite, but her replies felt fake. She brought up politics randomly, which felt weird and off-topic.

After that, she never contacted me first again.

December 2024

Hazel said she was going to her aunt’s house—again. And again, it felt like she was lying. Around the same time, we were trying to figure out what to get Lauren for her birthday. I ended up texting Lauren directly, and she said she didn’t want anything and had family plans.

Then I tested something. I told Lauren I’d tell Hazel, and Lauren replied, “I already told her.” Which didn’t line up with what Hazel later told me—she claimed Lauren told her 45 minutes ago, but Lauren hadn’t been online for over 7 hours. It didn’t add up.

Yes, I checked timestamps on Instagram and Messenger. I know that might make me sound obsessive, but I was just exhausted from the lying.

Present Day (Early 2025)

Lauren ghosted me completely. I texted her one last time asking how she was and if she wanted to hang out—or if she didn’t want to be friends, to just be honest.

She replied, “I’m busy and I don’t want to be honest.” Then blocked me.

Hazel still replies, but her responses are cold and dry. I feel like she’s about to ghost me too.

Update (March) I went to a gas station I hadn’t been to in a while and saw Hazel working there with Lauren’s mom. She never told me she got a job there. I caught her saying “shit” under her breath when she saw me. I told her to call me later so we could talk, but I honestly don’t even know what to say.

Also, I unfriended Lauren on a few apps.

We eventually spoke over the phone, she apologized. But at this point, I wanted her to be honest with everything.

Update (April) Hazel’s pretty much ghosting me completely now. She won’t even look at my Snaps. Her responses are minimal and cold. I think I’m finally done. I’m ready for her to just officially drop me.

So, AITA?

Was I being overly dramatic or obsessive by checking their status and trying to figure out the truth? Did I push too hard when they clearly didn’t want to be friends anymore? I was just trying to be honest and hold onto people I cared about.