For a bit of background information me (18M) and my boyfriend (18M) have known each other since childhood but have been long distance for years both as friends ever since I moved before we got into a relationship where we currently still are long distance. We connected again with each other through roleplay after a few years at the start of barely any communication right after the move and eventually became each others #1 roleplay partners which turned into best friends then lovers. As I know of he was only roleplaying with me during that period so when we officially got together the issue of roleplaying sexually or romantically outside me as his partner didn't occur. Even then as far as I gather and have experienced it is commonly essentially an unspoken rule among a lot of roleplayers that if someone you are roleplaying with is in a relationship and you have obviously been informed of it then romantic and sexual roleplays are a no-brainer to be off limits.

Although this wasn't the case with him, I noticed once he started to gain a decent small following on his primary art social is when this problem arose. His social media growth allowed him to make other roleplay friends which of course is fine but the issue lies in that him and many of these friends then began to pursue romantic roleplays both in public and private Discord servers alongside at times direct messages. I didn't even become aware of these people and roleplays until he started posting ship art of his and these other peoples' characters which I immediately questioned him on only to receive responses such as 'there is no emotions in it' and 'it's just roleplay'.

I dealt with that for I would say at least a year possibly a year and a half of our relationship because this all seemed to happen after our 1 year mark until recently this week I put my foot down and told him if he is serious about this relationship then the romantic roleplays need to stop or else it would be a strict deal breaker for me to break off the relationship. Since then he did his part to inform those who he was romantically roleplaying with that they are not to anymore (or well some, just today I had to call him out on one the people posting ship art in a roleplay server we are in of him and their character since the other person clearly wasn't informed of the boundary) but he hasn't informed everyone that I know of and has been acting sorrowful publicly in at least one server stating he doesn't want to roleplay for a while. Privately he whined to me about how these roleplays' stories met a lot to him despite me constantly telling him it isn't the stories but the romantic aspects between people outside our relationship. This alongside other similar conflicts in our relationship have been making me consider breaking things off and simply remaining friends but I honestly don't know anymore because I get dog-piled on by his friends being called a horrible boyfriend that they don't support him dating yet at the same time both are families alongside my few friends are heavily against our relationship as well stating he is mentally, emotionally, and financially abusive towards me.

So AITA for pushing the boundary that my boyfriend is not to romantically roleplay with anyone outside of me and I'm just uneducated on roleplay ethics or is my request of common sense?