AITA for getting extremely upset with my significant other for refusing to be sexual with me?

Let me start off by saying Me (33 F) and My Partner (34 M) just had a baby 2 months ago. We conceived our child in June. We had just begin our relationship February 2024.

So let me begin...

This guy is everything that I have never had in a man. It is absolutely the greatest thing ever! The whole year we have been together we have been very honest with each other, we haven't fought once and if we come to disagreements we talk about them. Everything has been great! I have been sober for 8 years and have been through domestic violent relationships, drugs, homelessness and a lot more. A world that Dan could never imagine. Dan came from a well-off family. He is a firefighter and has a degree and has never touched a drug in his life. Again way different than I've ever had!

Everything was going perfectly and we had a very strong sexual relationship we had Seggs on the regular until July 2024 when I found out I was pregnant in the beginning he wanted me to get an abortion but he told me he would never make me make a decision that I did not want and if I wanted to keep the baby that we could. So I made that decision. The doctor did tell me that due to me being at high risk I could not have any penetration but could fool around. The whole time I was pregnant I did things to him and constantly waited for him to reciprocate and he never did. I spoke to him about this several times I express myself seggsually when I love someone and especially being pregnant and all my hormones I just wanted to be very close with him. I cried about it, I spoke to him in person about it, I wrote him while he was at work about it, and whenever I told him I wanted to talk about it when he got home and what not he would avoid it. And you would think that it would have changed if he was going to avoid it but it never did. Here it is 2 months after having our baby and the doctor told us that we could fool around and have Seggs again. I got on birth control and bought tons of condoms I did stuff with him the other night again and he did not reciprocate he did not touch me at all not even a little bit. Then I started thinking about it all over again! I had let it go because he could have just been nervous about being a dad or he could have just been very busy because work was very stressful and the baby was coming anytime so I let it all go. But now that everything is put together to the best of our ability I thought I would try again.

The problem is this guy provides everything for me! He goes to work all day long and comes home he has always tired although I take care of the baby he is a very hard worker himself so I totally understand that he is exhausted but if he allows me to do stuff to him why can't he just reciprocate. So I'm back to square one! Do you think that he loves me? He says that he does! Again like I said he provides everything for us a home a car anything that I need, that's the only thing he's not providing me! So I'm questioning myself- Am I The A$$hole?-for wanting so much from this man do you think I'm going through postpartum right now and that's why I'm so depressed about this subject? Do you think maybe he just doesn't like me anymore, I mean I know that he loves me but he might not be sexually attracted to me? 😞 Please give me advice