My boyfriend(41) of 6 months and I (40)were having a pretty big fight recently to where he ended up staying with some friends of ours for a couple days while we worked things out.

Another friend (37 f) of mine, not who he was staying with, someone I've been very very close with for 10 years, had been messaging my boyfriend the whole time we were fighting, I did not know she was talking to him. Fast forward a couple days, she decided to go to where he was staying, not only did she not ask me first, but she didn't even tell me she went over there at all, come to find out she was over crying on his shoulder about her husband cheating on her and telling him negative shit about me and lying to him about me. Once I found out she was over there she flipped tf out trying to say he was lying about everything, however admitted to going over there to comfort him. To me, that in is itself is totally inappropriate and not ok.

I told her she betrayed me, broke my trust and it will take a very long time for me to move past what she did, she continues to blow my phone up almost daily feeling sorry for herself, trying to get any kind of response or reaction from me. Keep in mind, we don't talk daily and never have, we will go weeks sometimes without talking, she's never on FB, but now that this has happened she's messaging me constantly, and all over my fb posts.

AITA for being hurt and not wanting to respond to her this soon, especially after telling her I need time to move past this. Her constantly messaging me has me on the verge of blocking her to get her to leave me alone for awhile while I process that happened