When I was younger, I was drugged by someone I trusted and they assaulted me in a way that hurt so terribly. I never wanted to think about it again.

My bf asked me if we could try anal. I said no and wanted to shut down. He asked me if I'd done it before. I said yes. He said "so you did it for someone else but not me?" I told him it wasn't like that, that it wasn't consensual, and that I didn't want to talk about it again ever.

He said ok and promised not to bring it up again.

A few days later he brought it up again. He tried to sell it to me, "I think I could make it feel good", "it could help you move past it if we did it right." I froze, I couldn't breath, I told him "i told you, don't ask me about this again, i will never want it, i'm not going to change my mind" and he apologized and said he won't ask again.

A couple weeks later he proposed it again while we were showering after being intimate.

So I broke up with him.

He apologized again and said we don't have to end it over this and that we don't have to throw away everything we've built over this. But I told him that we're done. One of my friends said that he was just being naive and I didn't need to break up with him over this, that we could work through it. My ex promised never to bring it up again but I was done. AITA??