📝 AITA for calling my dad a coward and saying I hate him after he killed himself?

By Embarrassed-Pace7978 • Score: 173 • April 10, 2025 4:55 PM


I (M15) My dad killed himself six months ago. No warning, no note, nothing. He just shot himself in the garage while I was at school. That’s how he chose to leave.

I have two older brothers (28M and 24M) and two sisters (26F and 21F). We were all at my brother’s house last weekend, sitting around talking about him. Everyone was sharing stories, crying, calling him “strong” and saying “he did the best he could.”

And I just couldn’t take it anymore. I said, “He wasn’t strong. He was a coward. I hate him for what he did.”

The room went dead silent. My oldest brother stood up and looked like he was going to hit me. My other brother walked out without saying a word. My sisters were crying. One of them told me to get out, so I did.

They haven’t talked to me since. I tried texting, even kind of apologized, but they’re ignoring me. The truth is, I’m still mad. I don’t just feel hurt I feel betrayed. I hate him. I hate that he left me to deal with this. I hate that he didn’t even say goodbye. I hate that everyone acts like it was okay.

I get that depression is real. But he was supposed to be our dad. He was supposed to be stronger than the part of him that wanted to quit. But he wasn’t. And I can’t forgive that.

So, AITA?

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