So I (31M) have a daughter who is close to turning 12 months. Literally the best thing to happen to our family and my wife (31F) and I are so happy with our little family unit.

I've always been independent with regards to my family and speaking with them. We would always stay in touch but could go weeks without messaging. No issues, that's just how things worked. My wife comes from a closer knit family and said it's odd to her, but accepted that's how we are.

When we announced the pregnancy to them, everything seemed normal at first, but as my wife entered the third trimester was roughly when I noticed a change.

The messages stopped, for months at a time after that (even after our daughter was born). I would message and try to involve them, send baby photos or other updates but got the vibe they were disinterested. They have seen my daughter once, compared to my in-laws who see her on a near weekly basis (they live much closer, but still put the effort in and message my wife daily for updates and the like)

My mum, dad and sister live about a 2 hour drive from us, so visiting us (and their grandchild) could easily be a day trip for them. The worst part is they frequently pass the area that we live in so that they can go to shows or events in other parts of the country. But never contact us to see if we are in and if they can visit.

Everything kicked off around Christmas. We were due to visit them but I cancelled last minute. Our daughter was really struggling with small car journeys (about 10minutes was a limit and then she was inconsolable until we got home) I told my family that it's unfair to subject her to such a long car ride, which would realistically be up to 3 hours with stops along the way, and that we would have to reschedule for when she was more settled and tolerated longer journeys in the car.

The response I got was point blank rude (imo). Mum basically called me out as a liar and asked if I was joking. I apologised for the last minute cancellation but said I wouldn't be putting my daughter through that upset for a visit to people who haven't shown any interest in visiting her. This is before we even get into sleeping arrangements where my family said that my daughter (as a reminder, she is a baby and prone to waking in the night) had 'better not disturb them' at night.

TLDR: I'm considering cutting all contact with my family until they get their act together and show an interest in their grandchild. So AITH for sticking to this?

Apologies for the rant, but it feels good to get this off my chest at least.