This is my first time posting and my first language isnt english so the formatting might be off i apologise in advance🙏🙏

This will need a bit of backstory, so around a month ago me(17M) and my friend dave(16M) went out with a couple of friends of his who wanted to discuss some stuff with us mainly concerning dave and in particular his friendhsip with jacob. Jacob was accused in around 2023 of raping a girl and from calling up some ex friends of mine who knew him back then and confronted him about it before beating him up, Daves friends also brought forth the fact that jacob was manipulative constanlty lying to me and dave and other people and using dave, after that they gave dave an ultimatum he had to chose between continiouing to stay friends with them or jacob dave chose them and me and him went on a walk because people had heard about the allegations and we didnt want to see him get beat up, jacob went to stay with some relatives i think but came back about two weeks ago, him and dave went out and dave called me saying that his friends had lied to us that jacob didnt rape anyone and it was all a ploy to get him to cut jacob off(being sceptical off htat after hanging up, i called one of my ex friends who explained what happened when they beat him up to sum up they invited him to hung out played friendly and said they had heard some rumors that he raped a girl he showed them 3 pictures of different girls asking if they ment them, none of the girls he was reffering to were the one my ex friends had heard about and they beat him up. Dave also said he had screenshots that proved jacobs innocence and i asked him to send them to me the screenshots just showed that him and the girl who accused him were talking somewhat romantically (in february and may) and there was also one from september where they're cussing eachother out, he was asking her what the hell she had been saying to people and she was asking him if he was alright in the head and bacically telling him that he sa'd her. I thought the dates where odd and the screenshots from may and february also had no context so i texted Dave back saying that i dont think they proved anything, he replied he didnt even read them "tbh" and that sparked a kind of arguement between us Dave saying that Jacob hadnt tried anything with us,askign why the girl never posted proof(why would she post proof that she's been raped????) that he respects peoples boundaries and he didnt believe he did it before backtracking and saying that even if he did it was to years ago that people change and deserve forgiveness and then comparing it to people who sell drugs to underage people and create life addictions. I was telling him that underage children ask for drugs no one asks to be raped etc and i admit i got a tad emotional because i was gromed by a parental figure since birth up to the ends of elementarry school and have also expreienced sexual assault several times one of them being recent, so it being a touchy subject i sat with my thoughts for about a day and came to the conclussion that i couldnt stay friends with someone who thinks that such an action deserves forgiveness, but because i liked him as a person i tried to atleast be polite about it,

me-Dave I dont think we can be friends anymore i feel very uncomfortable with the whole situation with Jacob even if he didnt do it im of the belief of believing the victim and the fact that you are defending jacob so blindly doesnt sit right with me,You're a really cool person i like you a lot and i dont like the fact that im doing this but i cant ignore my feelings in this issue.

Dave- Look i dont filter my friends for their beliefs and i dont think that makes me a nazi because i said that no ones has proof so i'll believe my friend if you want it like this i cant do anything. Sorry Im beeing aggressive but wtf im sone with all of you

me- Are you stupid im cuttting you off because youre defending a rapist and trying to justify the action saying that IF he has done it he has changed that the girl is indebted and has to post proof that something like that has happened to her between other stuff, I dont filter my friends baced on their opinions but if you believe that rapists deserve forgiveness and that women should be willing to show you an hd video of them getting sa'd for you to believe them take my balls (idk how to transalte this) i hope your cat shits on you and your dog bites off jacobs dick.I tried to be nice about this because i actually liked you and i was upset over the situation but youre telling me that he deserves forgiveness when the only people who can forgive him are the women he has harmed and he doesnt even have the balls to admit it because he knows all his teeth will be knocked out and he will deserve it,

I feel i let my emotions and past cloud my judgement and i admit i was too harsh towards dave but he knows about my past and i cant understand why he would tell me that jacob should be forgiven just because what he did happened 2 years ago and he isnt the same person,I did try to justify his words because i genuenly wanted him to keep being my friend but all i could think about after our initiall conversation is that i could have been in the position of the girl jacob assaulted and all dave would be doing is casting doubt on my story because jacob is his friend idk how to feel about how it all went down so AITA