I (15F) who was 14 at the time was dating this guy (M15) who i had liked for a couple years. things were going great until i started realising things were really wrong with him.

he would make comments about how we should off our self’s together and how he loved to hurt himself. i thought he was just a. but fucked up the head but things took a dark turn. he started to tell me i wasn’t allowed to see my friends because i was leaving him, and i wasn’t allowed to talk to any guys (most of my friend group were guys) which was a bit hard for me but i committed.

after our 2 month anniversary we started talking about what we wanted to do, and randomly he mentions 🍇ing. i don’t know where this came from but he says to me, “if you ever get 🍇ed, i’ll be mad at you.” i don’t know where this came from or why he said it but it threw me off.

after a while i got drained of him having his break downs and having a go at me for being in a bad mood. sometimes i would be upset for no reason and it would always be about him. “why are you upset?” “i’m on my period.” “how do you think this makes me feel?”. that was always his response. how do you think this makes me feel? i felt like i didn’t matter.

i went to a party sleepover without him knowing and he wasn’t happy. he told me we were done and it was my fault he was going to off himself tonight. i ended up telling him that i was here and i wasn’t going to leave him and he let it be. one of my gay guy friends was at the party and he knew but i didn’t talk to him. i ended up getting a bit drunk and we started pushing each other around it shopping carts and whilst he going through my phone (this was about a week after the party) he saw a video of it. he ended up punching himself in the head and clipped my finger whilst i tried to stop him. he ended up dislocating my finger and kept punching himself in the head. i cried and cried and begged for him to stop but he wouldn’t, and then afterwards he told his parents i “accidentally hit him over the head with his microphone”.

i had enough. a school trip came around that i wanted to go on and he wouldn’t let me go. when i went to the class they told me i had to go so i told him that. he proceeded to tell me he didn’t believe me and that i was lying, which i wasn’t. he ended up saying stuff like “you can make up for this by not seeing your friends tomorrow and seeing me instead”. i was so full of anger i said no. he replied with “no?” and i said no, again.

that day, i broke up with him. he was fucked up and emotionally and domestically abusive and i couldn’t do it anymore.

AITAH? i wanted to save myself from what could’ve been a very abusive relationship.