Me, 36F and my partner 41M have been together almost 2 years. We’re in a long distance relationship between UK and Ireland and see each other 3 times a month, a couple of nights at a time. We’re always in touch every day besides that and it’s been all lovely. Last night, he’d had a bit to drink and was very sloppy with his phone, he left his WhatsApp open in his hand and I could see on it he’d sent a message to a girl saying ‘beautiful woman’ with a heart emoji. I let it stew overnight and asked this morning. He obviously denied it. I begged to see the message so I could see the whole thing but he deleted it before he’d show me! He then showed me her name with zero conversation history. He made up a couple of stories about how she sent him a photo of her and her family and then eventually said it’s because she changed her profile picture. I mean, there was just no need to do that. For context, he was married for 15 years when I met him. They had been separated the last couple of that but still lived together and shared the same room etc but had separate lives. They are now divorced. He has a history of cheating on her and her him. He was seeing a Brazilian girl before he met me. I just can’t shake the ‘once a cheat always a cheat’ and him sending that message has really upset me. It wasn’t needed and just seems like it was an attention thing. She’s an old friend from Sweden who used to visit him and his wife. Apparently she has a boyfriend for years and they’re very happy. He’d go mental if I’d sent something like that to a friend. It’s just made me feel a little rubbish and has stained the already short time we get to spend together. Currently sat here in a hotel bed not talking to each other Sorry for the long message, would just like other POVs on it