I’ve made a post about this before in this subreddit last year but my roommate doesn’t like me having people around and it’s annoying. Our other roommate has their boyfriend around every other day and has him stop the night but she doesn’t tell us when he’s over or not, which is awkward but we make do with it. I have a girlfriend now and want to spend more time with her so a few days ago we decided that we were going to watch a show in my room and she was going to stop the night. I told my roommates as a nicety with the thought that were all adult and obviously I don’t need permission to have my partner in my home. I had my girlfriend around and we were just quietly watching a show and laughing at some dumb jokes before going to sleep but I got a message telling me that my girlfriend shouldn’t stop the night and that having an extra person in the house made her uncomfortable. I told my girlfriend who understood and we left to stop at hers instead. In the morning my roommate apologised saying they were anxious because they don’t know my girlfriend (they’ve met a few times before)

My roommate hasn’t had an issue with our roommates boyfriend or friends being around but our roommates room is besides mine so she can’t hear them from across the corridor (whereas our rooms connect on a small part of our wall near my bed.) But still she never messages our roommate to tell her to get her partner to leave like she did mine. It’s not homophobia she’s gay herself and I understand being uncomfortable but it’s not like we were having sex or anything she knows I’m ace. It would be one thing to tell us to be quiet it’s another basically kicking us out of the house I live in because i want my partner around.

I could be being an ah because I know she get uncomfortable with people around and dropped it on her last minute. And I know she told me that she doesn’t like having people in the flat at night but I thought she got used to it with having two separate couples live with us and them having their partners around all the time. And I’d get it if it was a guy and being uncomfortable with a strange man in the house but it’s not it a girl she has met a few times and said they got along.

I’m so frustrated with this roommate I hope I get a different house next year because as much as I enjoy her company most of the time I went from a controlling family who didn’t get me have my friends around to a controlling roommate