My (41F) daughter (15F) has autism and often will get upset over things and have outbursts. When it is close to that time of the month when she gets her period, she is more emotional and gets more upset and grouchy easily. I get it, I understand, it's normal, and I was there as well.

Often when she has an upset anger outburst and it's close to that time of the month, I will jokingly say that she is going to get her period soon. She eventually started snapping at me for making these comments and making it clear to me that she doesn't like that. I was cool with it, apologized to her, and stopped.

I honestly don't think it's that big of a deal or that deep, but I understand she is sensitive about certain things, and I don't want to make her upset, so I am respecting that and trying not to say it anymore.

The other day, she was pitching a huge fit in her room (probably over something little), and her dad went to talk to her and knocked on her door. She got pissy with him and wanted him to go away, and when he opened the door and talked to her, he make a silly joke referring to her being about to get her period soon since it's getting close to that time.

She was confused at first and went to ask him what he meant after he had already walked away. I'm assuming he told her that it meant she was starting her period soon because of how she was acting, and then she told him that she always acts that way, and not just around that time of the month.

I didn't know for sure if he explained, so I told her from the living room (the bedroom was down the hallway, and that's where she was standing in the doorway talking to my husband) that he was saying that because he's heard me telling her that she's about to start her period whenever she got upset like this. She seemed like she was starting to get really offended over the joke, so I told her it wasn't that big of a deal.

She then went to her room and had a huge fit/crying meltdown because her feelings were hurt. She was screaming and banging the wall, which was too loud, so I went down the hallway and told her that she was being way too loud and that she cannot scream and bang like this.

I explained to her that her dad just sometimes doesn't know better not to say certain things, and that I know she's sensitive about this. She then started getting mad at me for calling her sensitive, and I got annoyed and told her, "I'm sensitive about things too! My God, I wasn't trying to call you sensitive! Please don't start driving me crazy about this as well!"

She has always hated being called sensitive/told that she's being sensitive or too sensitive, and I don't understand why. Like it's not that big of a deal and not that much of an insult. For years, she has already had problems with being too sensitive and upset over things, and I am just so tired of it. I honestly also think she is being too sensitive when she gets upset and overworked about us joking about her period.

Reddit, AITA for joking about my teenage daughter's anger outbursts and saying that she's going to get her period soon?