I [19M] have been dating this guy [19M] for two months. About a week ago I decided to hang out at the mall with my best friend [18F] who I’ve been friends with since middle school. I decided to invite my boyfriend along as well since he told me he had nothing going on that day and my friend was fine with it.

I felt as if my boyfriend kept trying to keep me away from her as we were hanging out, and I didn’t get why. I would be talking to my friend and he would pull me away to look at something or derail the conversation to something that she couldn’t give input on.

I tried to stop him from doing this, but I didn’t feel confident enough to directly address it as I wasn’t completely sure he was doing it intentionally or if I was being delusional.

After we were done hanging out, I questioned why he acted this way. Turns out he had heard from a friend me and my best friend kissed literally 3 years ago. We did do that. She was trying to figure out if she liked men and it was a stupid sort of test, kind of a way to get things over with for the both of us. (She’s a lesbian and was testing things out in a way? Like I said, it was stupid.)

We kissed in what we thought was a decently private place, but someone got a photo of it. There were some social media profiles for our school dedicated to different stupid things like kids sleeping and whatever. Anyways, guess who ended up on one for gossip?

He believed we were exes and found it uncomfortable I was hanging out with her. I told him we never actually dated and she’s a lesbian. I don’t think she’s interested in me like that. He still said he found it “gross” and the fact that we even hugged was a problem for him. That was the only physical contact we had during the entire hang out.

In the end he gave me an ultimatum. Stop interacting with her or break up with him. This is where I think I may be the asshole because I couldn’t choose. I love them both in different ways, and he has treated me well just as she has.

I ended up panicking and lying the next day when I told him I blocked her. I honestly just wanted to calm things down. That backfired last night, only a few days later, when he came over to my place and he ended up seeing a notification from her on my phone while I was cleaning up the kitchen.

I should have seen this coming, really. He stormed out yelling that I lied to him. I understand he feels betrayed, I feel bad. He called me an asshole over text in the few hours after he left. It reminded me of this subreddit, honestly.

I did end up telling my friend about everything and she believes I am in the right, but she’s obviously biased so I’m not sure. I want some completely outside opinions.

Am I the asshole for lying to my boyfriend?