Throwaway because I feel ashamed for my feelings... Realized I made a mistake in the headline, the sum in question ist about €70,000.

My husband (40) and his brother (35) generally get along well. However, his brother has always been the “golden child” in the family—he got more attention, more support, and was always favored. I’ve tried to let that go for years, but something happened recently that’s been bothering me.

Last year, my brother-in-law’s wife was diagnosed with breast cancer. Thankfully, she’s doing well now. We don’t live in the U.S., so her medical costs were covered by health insurance. Of course, she couldn’t work for a while, and I understand that must have been a very difficult time.

A week ago, my father-in-law sold a piece of art he owned and received about €70,000 for it. Today, he told us he plans to give the entire amount to my brother-in-law’s family to help them pay off their house—because of the stress they went through due to the cancer.

Here’s the thing: My husband and I also have kids, the same age as theirs. We both work, we manage okay, but it’s not easy—just like for most families. We’re not swimming in money, and we have our own share of financial pressures.

I don’t mind them getting support. But ALL of it? There was no discussion, no suggestion of splitting the money in some way. It just feels like yet another moment where my husband is treated like the lesser child.

So now I’m wondering: AITA for feeling hurt and thinking this is unfair? My husband is also upset, but doesn’t want to rock the boat with his father. I don’t want to stir up drama either—but it’s eating at me.

Of course, I understand it’s his money and he can do whatever he wants with it. It just feels like the same old pattern repeating itself, and that’s hard to swallow.

So please tell me: AITA?