This is probably the biggest conflict I (23F) have had with my best friend, Morgan (23F). We both went to college together and knew this acquaintance Amy (fake name of course). After graduating, Morgan matched with Amy on tinder. She told me about it, she was excited that they had matched, but nothing came out of it. They never had a meaningful conversation on or off the app, never met up, hooked up, or went on a date.

Over a year later, I saw Amy on the app and swiped right. We had an innocent chat about what we were up to after college and we happened to like a lot of the same shows. We discussed maybe meeting up.

I went to Morgan to ask if she had any lingering feelings, to which she said she absolutely did not. At first she said it was fine and then blew up at me, saying if I felt the need to even ask for permission I should’ve known it wasn’t okay. She said she would feel really uncomfortable that we had the same “intentions” with someone. I feel like she’s projecting her insecurities about being rejected and can’t let it go, even after all this time. What really hurt is when she said “my fear is that you would start to really have feelings for her and I would have to hang out with the both of you together”. It really upset me that she would put her own overreactive discomfort ahead of my real happiness in this hypothetical.

Anyways, I told her I think she’s overreacting but decided not to meet up with Amy. Im not sure if that was a good decision at this point.