This will be a Long one because id like everyone to know all the facts so everyone can see the POV's of everyone who's involved. Sorry if my English is bad, English is not my first language.

My Dad married my Mom when he was 18 and my Mom was 29. He got my mom pregnant with me so my Grandparents decided to Marry them because my Mom didn't agree to have an abortion. Both Grandparents side care about their reputation a lot. it's important for them to get married otherwise they will be kicked out of the religion/Church. i will not name the said religion for privacy reasons.

They got married when my mom was 5months pregnant, My dad had to stop school for a while but my Grandparents wanted him to finish college but he himself said he didnt want to. (this is important for later)

5 years later, My mom found out that my dad cheated on her with several woman and He got one of them pregnant. My mom took me to her hometown because they kept telling her to forgive him. My dad moved to his mistress and basically played house with her for a few years but they eventually split up because my dad cant provide enough.

After 2 years my Grandparents begged my mom for me to live with them because according to them i will have a better education there. My mom eventually agreed so she can save up, but in a condition that i will not have a relationship with my step sister. She didnt want to because it was too painful for her and she didnt want me to have a complicated childhood. Nonetheless they did introduced me to her, at first i didnt tell my mom because i was scared i have to move schools again but i eventually did because i cant lie to her. She was mad but said she really cant undo anything and if i was ok with it then shes ok with it too. Going back to my Dad, He was literally out of sight while i was at my grandparents. Didnt really took care of me or spent time with me because he was busy being "single" while all of this was happening my grand parents always tells me that its okay because he was still young and i have them to raised me. To be honest living with them over the years has been a nightmare, I cant really be a "child" there. They beat me up for every wrong thing i do and always cuss at me or call me a "demon" because im just being a "child" Mind you i was around 7-12 years old at this time. They introduced me to the church pretty early but honestly its more like a cult. They even arrange for me to get married at 18 with one of the pastor's son, but thats a different story to tell. So yeah, i had a very f-up childhood. if i ever had one lol.

once i turned 13 my mom decided to take me back because i was an emotional reck, i was diagnose with Major depressive disorder at 13. before this, I found out that my dad got another woman pregnant again. i was upset because he promised me that he will never do it again. Its more f-up because they tried to hide it from me, even my grandparents. A few weeks before i found out, i saw an unfamiliar baby on my grandma's phone. I asked who it was and she replied that it was my dad's best friend's daughter which was weird because i never knew she was pregnant that time even tho we talked not so long ago. but i really didnt mind it til 2 weeks later when i saw my Dad's phone wallpaper. it was the same baby. i tried to ask again and they denied it. i was already mad because i knew they were lying while i was breaking down everyone was siding with him because according to them he "deserves" to be happy too. All i can think at that moment was how hard my life has been without a father and a complete family. he deserves to be happy even though he ruined our lives? and he never even tried to fix anything or make up for it.

i stopped talking to him after that, for 3 years we had no contact because i blocked him everywhere. We only saw each other when it was my graduation. but after that i didnt talk to him again until last month. ( it had been 3 years since my graduation)

My mom got himself a boyfriend, dont get me wrong i am very happy for her but the thing is they were having pregnancy scares. My mom is now 43 and her and his boyfriend is not at all baby ready. They both dont have stable jobs and they cant afford a baby. i was scared because they might ask me for money so i was stressing out. and i found out that she moved in with him because she's in debt of 3,500usd and she was hiding from the Leander. before i found out all of this, she was asking me for money. I'm 18 and i have my business , its not big but it gets me by. Yes, i moved out when i was 17. i dont ask anyone for money so they think i earn more than enough.

Going back, i had to talk to him because of my grandparents. They set me up to meet with him. I went to stay with them so i can take a break from everything but they called him instead. despite me begging them to not call him because "I needed a break" i crashed out because everything was too much. they did not respect my request. He was shouting that he could have been an engineer if i wasnt born. he was saying that im the one whi ruined his life. they keep defending him and explaining his side but i didnt want to hear all of it all over again so i left.

without my knowledge they gave him my fb account. He was suddenly acting like a father and like nothing was wrong, he calls me at random hours because he said that he wanted to see me even through calls. I really didnt want to because every call i can feel myself being angrier. He never apologized for anything. I blocked him after days because i just cant stand him.

After i blocked him, His side of the family started calling and texting me about unblocking him and giving him a chance. i said to them that i already did a long time ago, many times already but he failed. he choose to enjoy his "single" life instead of raising me. so why act like a father now when i grew up without one? i blocked all of them and now they are calling me ungrateful because they paid for my education and so on. honestly, if i had the money i would just pay them back to shut them up. they keep brining up all the money they spent for me. but honestly its all bare minimum and they are the ones who begged my mom for me to live with them. so i dont understand.

so am i the a-hole? Should i feel bad because he married young? and he didnt get to experience being single? What should i do? i honestly dont know if im wrong. But all i feel is just anger. Please help, i really need some advice:(