I (33F) am engaged and pregnant, in a long-distance relationship with my fiancé (33M) of over 10 years. The long distance is temporary. A few months ago, he admitted to having a long-term porn addiction and hiding secret social media accounts where he followed other women. This naturally shattered my trust especially because he had always claimed he wasn’t a “social media guy.”

Since starting school, he’s made new friendships with younger women, but he only mentioned them when I asked directly. One of them lives in his building and cooked him a meal (he says he ate alone in his apartment). He also shared a cab home drunk with her after a formal event at school. He says it’s 100% platonic and that he’s even "helping her find a boyfriend.” They study together at the library and text regularly. He's also been texting another woman often.

The thing is, he used to say he didn’t believe in opposite-sex friendships, but now his stance has completely changed. Meanwhile, he’s been emotionally distant with me for months. I asked him to limit contact with the woman who he says he's gotten close to and even asked to see their messages for reassurance, but he refused, saying he’s a private person.

He says he loves me and wants to work on things when he’s back, but his actions haven’t reflected that. I’m trying to set boundaries because I don’t feel secure or prioritized, especially during this vulnerable time.

AITA for not being okay with these friendships and wanting him to end the close contact and asking for more transparency?