Hi everyone!

A little recent backstory as to why I feel this way. A couple weeks back, we found out that my sister (30F) is finally pregnant after having issues with fertility. My mom (48F) was overjoyed with this as this will be her first grandchild.

A while later, I (21F) got proposed to earlier this month. My mom was happy for me but she doesn’t really give me the same energy she does to my sisters. Which at first I was okay with.

I also recently took her to the ER since she wasn’t feeling good, stayed with her for 4 hours at the hospital and still took her to the store on my day off from work. All she could talk about was my sister’s pregnancy and any time I brought up my life it just got redirected back again.

(One thing to note. I moved out when she was at work because I could no longer stand her strictness and everyday she would accuse me of doing drugs, drinking and so much more when my boyfriend and I went out… I helped her pay bills, and I would take care of my personal bills too…)

But my sister and I aren’t really close, she spent about my whole life in Mexico, and then after coming to the US she moved out after a year. So I never really got that time to bond with her. My mom moved to the US when my sister was only 4 to get a better life.

Anyway, today before I got off work, my mom called me frantic that my sisters husband was pulled over and was arrested. Apparently some of her coworkers called her because they had drive by and seen it. She’s asking me with a tone in her voice as if I knew what to do or why it happened. I told her idk and that I was still at work.

She continues to call me and I simply told her she can try reaching out to my dads side of the family because the last time I knew, one of my cousins worked at the front desk at the police station. She sends me the number of my aunt and expects me to do it, even after I told her I haven’t spoken to them in years…. I didn’t even bother to call or text them…

I told her I knew some Facebook mugshot pages and the daily mugshot website for our county and all she told me was to keep an eye out…. I haven’t even bothered to look.

I refuse to care for any of this because I think I also deserve her attention and not just my sister because she’s pregnant. Yeah I get it, she’s going to be a grandma, but my sister also doesn’t even care about my mom since she’s always at her in laws or her husband’s family. My sister only calls mom when she needs something but never does the same in return.

So what do you guys think? AITA?? *** UPDATE: he was arrested for having up to 4g of a controlled substance. (Everyone in the family knew he used too)***