for context, we’re both in college. it was spring break and we went on a road trip with a few other friends. this one girl initially did not want to come due to poor financial situation and family issues but after talking with her parents, she was able to tag along. there were also a few occasions on that trip that suggests she was close to crashing out. i may have contributed to it since she literally ignored me for half a day for no apparent reason. anyway, we came back to rest over the weekend before school resumed, and she deactivated her instagram account (our main platform of communication). i do have her number and location too but i never texted her back. my thought process was oh, she’s pissed at me even though idk why since she went MIA and disabled sharing her location with me. so to not fuel the fire, i just kept to myself. i think its also pretty clear to the friend group that im not good with feelings and emotions in general - like i dont even acknowledge my own. when school resumed, i would almost always bump into her during lunch on most days but i never saw her once that whole week even though she was on campus. makes me think she’s still avoiding me intentionally.

i went to talk to a mutual and i found out that she was disappointed at me because i did not reach out to her when she went MIA. im supposedly the “closest” to her within the friend group and while others did text her to check in on her, i did not. and thats why she’s upset about me. so AITA for not checking in on her even when she was struggling with mental health (what they claimed) even though i had a reasonable suspicion that prevented me from doing so (in bold above)?

(tbh, even if i knew she wasnt upset about me and went MIA, i probably wouldnt have reached out anyway just cause im that kind of person. i hate talking about emotions and feelings and struggle with it a lot. i dont think i have ever reached out to anyone over text when they are crashing out, but maybe i would if its in person idk)