I have been thinking about this for a long time. Just want opinions form people that are not close to the situation. My mother always finds a reason not to be a part of mine or my daughter’s life. The newest situation is that my daughter is graduating with her masters this year. When she graduated with her bachelors, my niece also was graduating the same day in a different state (in which my mother lives) so my mom could not be at both graduations at the same time. She chose my nieces graduation over my daughters. Not awful I know you can’t be at 2 places at the same time. She promised my daughter that she would be at her next graduation, knowing that my daughter was going to go on for her masters. Six months ago she had something that was bothering her in her health. She has waited to go see a doctor until two weeks ago. The doctor told her that she needed surgery and it is the week before my daughter‘s graduation. So she will not be able to be at this one either. The thing is, I can’t trust her because I called it over a month ago that she was trying to figure out a way not to come. My daughter is going to be 24 this year. My mother has been at two of her birthdays in the past 24 years her first birthday and her 18th birthday, she has never sent my daughter a birthday card in the mail for the years that she has messed. I have invited my mother to Christmas every year for the past 12 years since my stepfather passed away there was always an excuse for her, not to come. She would say that she didn’t wanna miss Christmas at my brothers with his kids four biological and three step children. but she decided to go 15 hours away with her friend a couple years ago to visit her family in a state further away from where I live for Christmas. Has never seen my daughter at any of proms, she came up to take care of my daughter and bring her to physical therapy after surgery and left before she was cleared to drive leaving us in the lurk of trying to figure out how to get her back-and-forth to therapy mind you I paid her to do this, to be at her friends husband‘s funeral who passed away six months prior. When anybody compliments myself or my daughter, she always makes sure that they know how well my brother or my nieces are doing in dismissing anything that my daughter or I have accomplished in our lives. this even goes way back further than that I called her the night. I was in labor with my daughter in tears crying for her to come because I needed her. The response I got was I can’t be there. You’re gonna have to get over it. she bought each one of my nieces and nephews their first bike, but not my daughter. there are other things that she has done inside over the years too, but I don’t have enough space explain everything. She has came right out and told me and my daughter that my oldest niece is her favorite. There is a part of me while I’m just want to cut off all ties that I have with her. Can someone please tell me if you think I am the a-hole.