My boyfriend (27M) broke up with me (26F) a day after our one year anniversary. For a few months now, he has had a lot of work and financial issues that stem from his family issues. His dad is unwell and his older sister is asking the family (basically the dad) to pay off her remaining mortgage. The house that my boyfriend lives in was under the sister’s and dad’s name. The sister is married and lives with her husband but she wants the name to be transferred to her husband after the mortgage is paid off. His family, especially the mum has agreed to do that as she doesn’t want the family to fall out. His ill dad obliged too and is still working to pay it off. My bf is working extra to help his dad also job hunting on the side for better pay.

Our relationship was long distance as he lives in Wales and I live in London. We haven’t met up in over a month now but communicated over text and FaceTime. Recently, there was a lot of tension. He was still texting me his good morning and letting me know when he gets to work and gets back home. We FaceTime to sleep every day. But we barely talk anymore other than saying good night. We do say I love you to each other every night before going to sleep.

I had asked him if we could do something like watch a movie together on tele party or a dinner date on Facetime for our one year anniversary. He did say okay in advance but when the day arrived he said he is busy and has to prep for work and sleep early. I was a bit disappointed and didn’t complain but said that it was a special day for me but will treat it like any other normal day. He replied saying it’s not a special day for him, he doesn’t even have time for himself, he’s not feeling stable at all and he’s all alone. I told him I’ve stayed behind him all this time and he can talk to me, I’m there for him. He just ignored my texts after that.

He did go to smoke maryjane with his friend on the evening of our anniversary because he says that's the only way he can cope anymore. And when we FaceTimed that night, he was watching YouTube shorts. I asked if we could still watch something or talk, he said he will have to sleep soon.

And the day after our anniversary, we barely texted and when we FaceTimed at night, he was acting distant and ignoring my questions about how he didn’t have one or two hours to spare on our anniversary. I started lashing out then saying do you even love me, he ended the call saying he won't speak to me if I keep saying bullshit stuff. I then texted him asking how long is this going to go for, stop being avoidant, he should at least respect me enough to answer my question. That he should at least be able to reassure me as it didn't feel like a relationship anymore. I think the final straw for him was when I texted "don't be in a relationship if you can't handle my 'bullshit'". I said these out of anger and of course though I did mean some of it, I feel like I shouldn't have said this at that moment when he was already tense.

He then texted me saying I'm sorry but its over. No matter what I said after that he kept saying that he cant be in a relationship with everything going on. He has a sick dad to look after and has to achieve a lot of things for his family. He blocked me on everything right there. I tried calling him from no caller id too and kept messaging him from every outlet like insta, WhatsApp until I was blocked there too.

The next day, I went to Wales hoping we could make amends. Even though he blocked me we still had each other’s location. I thought our relationship was strong enough to get through this. He had given me a promise ring, talked about our future and wanted to marry me.

He unblocked me to say that if I come to his house, he will report me and call the police. He said I am making this toxic now and that I look like a creepy stalker. I couldn’t believe it. I've been to his house numerous times and stayed over before. I waited for hours and he only came to see me as I promised to God I wouldn’t make a scene or beg him to stay with me. He met me but he looked very stressed and paranoid. He said he will give me 5 minutes. I could only give him the promise ring back and leave as I knew if I stayed any longer I would start crying and begging him.

He called me to tell me to get home safely and sent me a goodbye text. I don’t know how to move on as it all happened one day after our anniversary. He said he loved me until that day. He was a really loving and good boyfriend but he has changed after his family situation. I really regret lashing out on him now and keep thinking if I stayed more patient that day, I would still be with him. I feel like he broke up with me because of this reason.

I keep wanting to contact him and apologise for what I said as he did give me as much as he could from his time. He was so overwhelmed with everything and I think I made it worse by lashing out on him at the wrong time.

Do I just move on now knowing he won’t be coming back now or do I hold on and hope that he will contact me again? I really don’t know how to deal with this as the breakup happened so abruptly.