So I (27F) am getting married this fall, and my best friend Tara (26F) is my maid of honor. We’ve been close for over a decade, and I love her like family, but this has turned into a thing and I’m starting to feel like the bad guy. Tara has been in a situationship with this guy (I won’t name him, but trust me, I want to). They’ve been doing this weird on again off again mess for about 6 months. He’s ghosted her, lied to her, cheated (yes, she told me herself), and then comes crawling back every time. It’s a cycle and it’s exhausting to watch. When I sent out invites, I didn’t give her a plus one. Everyone else in the wedding party who’s in an actual relationship got one, long-term partners, engaged, married, etc. But I didn’t want this guy at my wedding. I don’t trust him to act right, and I don’t want drama or weird energy on what’s supposed to be one of the best days of my life. She asked me about it and I told her the truth. I said, “I love you, but I don’t want him there. It’s nothing personal against you, I just don’t want to deal with him.” She got super quiet and then later texted me this long message saying she felt hurt and excluded, and that I was judging her relationship. Now she’s kind of iced me out, said she might not even want to be part of the wedding anymore. A couple mutual friends say I was harsh and should’ve just let her bring him to keep the peace. Others say I was right to set the boundary.

So I don’t know anymore. I wasn’t trying to embarrass her or cause drama, I just didn’t want his drama at my wedding.

AITA?