(This my 4th time editing and reposting because it gets taken down.)

I (22M) was never introduced to religion like most kids. My mom is Catholic, I think, but I can’t remember a time she went to church. My dad was forced into being a Jehovah’s Witness by my grandparents (he disliked it, to say the least). I remember him saying he wanted us to choose for ourselves when we were older.

My girlfriend (21F) recently started going to church a lot more—I’d say it’s been about a month of consistently going and participating. I was genuinely happy for her because I thought it would motivate her to finish school, focus on her career. Make her love herself.

I’ve known my girlfriend since 2017, we know just about everything about each other. Beliefs included. We had a big argument over a variety of issues, but we met up, and after a few hours, we resolved it—or so I thought. Because at the end of all the arguing and agreeing on what we could both work on, after we finally make up, she tells me I need to start going to church with her, because God can help us both.

I immediately knew this was an ultimatum. I knew she now wanted a good religious man, and I either had to practice her religion, or she’d break up with me. That’s exactly what she did, and I was completely devastated. The last eight years were scrapped because of a month of going to church. I tried talking and questioned everything. I said everything from, “is there someone else?” to “What happened to our future?” I told her I was sorry. I started tearing up, holding her. Yeah, I cried—I love her.

But then she starts crying too, and it seemed like this was it, like she was leaving. Then she looks at me, grabs my face, and tells me she’s not breaking up with me. I kind of breakdown and hold her thinking we she understood me now. I collect myself after a minute or two and we sit down.

“So are you willing to put in the effort for our relationship.” And I can’t even put into words what I felt. I knew what she was actually asking again, and I was just stuck. I asked why she would tell me that just now. She lied to see if I’d change my mind after all and I don’t know. This all felt very odd. I didn’t feel like myself and she didn’t seem like herself. She went home and it was left unfinished because I begged to talk more.

AITA for not wanting to study any religion at this point in my life? Not in an offensive way or anything—when I don’t have an immediate interest in something, it slowly drives itself to the junk folder in the back of my brain. I had told her I can try going with her, but I don’t know if it will have the same effect on me as it did on her. I don’t mind going once in a while for her but I don’t want to be forced into something as big as this. I need to hear different perspectives on this.

I read the few reply’s one of my post before it was taken down and didn’t see her again but we’ve been going back and forth of text.