My husband (38M) and I (26F) met in 2022 and he shortly introduced me to his friends one being Jasmine (24F). I never got any red flags or bad vibes from her and never thought we would have any issues at all we had hung out several times just me and Jasmine as well as all 3 of us he also sees her all the time in the military so the friendship has been pretty strong. To give a little back story I am bisexual and my husband is the first male I have ever been with and decided to marry I had expressed to Jasmine my previous relationships and she seemed very interested asking questions about my sex life and the life style of being lesbian I didn’t think it was weird as I am a very open and honest person and I have had other friends ask in the past so it never stroke me as odd. I had even asked her to be a bridesmaid in our wedding as her and my husband had been so close and now we were getting close. she even went with me to pick out my wedding dress and I was there when she got her bridesmaid dress, we texted almost everyday, and just overall had a great friendship. I had decided to do a DIY boudoir photoshoot for my husband and sent her and 2 other of my close girl friends some sneak peeks just to ask if they were worthy of a wedding night gift for him or if I should pay to have them done professionally instead. My other friends loved them and encouraged me like most girls do! Jasmine didn’t respond and a few days go by. My husband and her leave for a few week long deployment while there she ends up showing him the pics I sent her after I specifically said it was a wedding gift and to not tell him but she proceeds to tell him that I have a crush on her that I made her very uncomfortable with talking about my sex life as a previous lesbian and she can’t be in our wedding because she can’t support it long story short my husband came home told me everything and I explained what really happened and we both agreed she was trying to ruin our marriage and just cut ties all together this was back in 2023. Fast forward to last week she sends me a message saying she is getting married and is sorry about everything and wants my husband to be involved with her day and even give a speech. Are we assholes for not going to her wedding or being involved even tho she tried to blow up our marriage 2 weeks before our wedding?!