AITA for not wanting Catholic marriage counseling after my parent’s threatened to take my dog to the shelter?

I (19F) just got engaged to my amazing fiancé (22M) this past Friday. I love him more than anything — he’s smart, kind, hardworking, and my best friend. He’s also a big family guy, which usually isn’t a bad thing… until it involves my family.

To be clear: my family has never supported me. I’m 1 of 5 kids, and I’m the one actually moving forward in life — full-time college student, renting my own place, financially independent, etc. Meanwhile, my parents have constantly belittled me, dismissed my accomplishments, and made me feel like a burden for trying to break the cycle and build something better.

When my fiancé and I started talking engagement, I told him he didn’t need to ask my dad for permission. I didn’t care if he told them, but I’m not owned. Nobody needs permission to marry me — it’s my decision. Especially not from parents who haven’t offered an ounce of support for years.

So, he didn’t ask. He proposed. It was perfect. But the second my family found out, they lost it. They said I was “disrespectful,” “dishonorable,” and had “no respect for tradition.” And then they went nuclear: they were watching my dog (and getting paid to do so) and threatened to take him to the pound because they were mad.

Now they’re saying we must attend Catholic couple’s counseling because “it will show us we’re not meant to be” and that we’ll break up if we go through it. I’m sorry — the only counseling I’ll need is therapy to recover from dealing with my family.

What hurts the most is my fiancé’s response. He’s not defending them, but he’s also not fully standing by me. He keeps saying things like “it’ll blow over” and “it’s just your mom” and that “the rest of your family is awesome.” But to me, it feels like he’s minimizing years of pain and abuse. I know he’s a family guy and just wants everyone to get along, but I don’t think he really gets how deep this goes — and it makes me feel alone.

So… AITA for being upset that my fiancé is trying to stay neutral and downplay my family’s toxicity instead of standing up with me?