So for context, my family had a huge falling out due to my uncle and mom over petty trivial family stuff. Even after my cousin passed away, my aunt would not allow my mom to come over to her child funeral, even tho my mom even helped raised my cousin/ my cousin was like a daughter to her. (We were all really tight knit) She made a huge deal and got the whole extended side of the family involved and tried to play victim. The drama was so big and petty from my uncle and aunt that my mom decided to just not get involved in any part of my cousins funeral in respect for my aunts sanity since she just lost a daughter. Not even the grieving part.

Then came the big break. My uncle forced me and now, husband, to get married. He said he would start up some shit with my husband's side of the family if he did not marry me right then and there, that day. So ultimately, me and my husband with our hands figuratively tied, We bit the bullet and got married the same day even tho we had no plans of getting married any time soon.

When my mom received the message that I got married, she started planning for the wedding for us. (The OGs are traditional) when me and my husband went to visit her, she pulled us to the side and said, she as a mother would have NEVER forced us to get married. My uncle was evil for pulling such petty stunt like that to see if my mom can handle pulling a wedding like that by herself. (My mom is the only parent in my life)

When the wedding came, there were 2 parts to it. For BOTH of the weddings, my uncle did not have the face to show up. And this was what broke the camels back. He did not allow my cousins to see me, he did not allow his children to talk to us, he did now let them do anything that involved us because his words were, "we are my mother's children."

So fast forward. My cousin is now getting married to her boyfriend of a few years. They have sent us the invite to join their wedding. But it's complicated because when my wedding happened, my cousins couldn't show face to support me and my husband's marriage. But my cousin's- now husband, did.

A part of me is conflicted because 1) even tho my cousin did not come, HE SHOWED UP TO CONGRATULATE US. 2)after my cousin passed away i don't want to miss out on any more important events with the people important to me. But 3) my cousin never did anything to even prove that I was important to her due to her crazy ass parents. Not even a fb message. 4) my husband wants nothing to do with my uncle particularly. Ans he WILL be at the wedding for my cousin.

So... what should I do....