Hi everyone,
So a while back, my parents were thinking about buying a cottage. my sisters were both excited about it, but I (18F) told them that I didn’t think it was a good idea. I knew that my dad would have to do a lot of the hard labor (he has a bad knee) and it would cause him to stress about money more. It would also cause my mom stress because she's a perfectionist and honestly, I wasn’t super excited about spending weekends there. They went ahead and bought it anyway. Their money, their choice — I get that.

However, now they keep pressuring me to come to the cottage with them, and every time I say no or hesitate, I get this vibe like I’m being ungrateful or selfish. Like, I should be thrilled they "did this for the family" and want to spend my free time there.

The thing is, the idea of sitting in a car for 3 hours in brutal traffic just to stay for one weekend isn't even appealing to me. By the time I get there and start to relax, it feels like it’s already time to pack up and leave. It honestly feels more draining than fun — like a "vacation" that's somehow more exhausting than just staying home.

I’m starting to feel guilty because they are excited and proud of it, and I don't want to hurt their feelings... but at the same time, I’m kind of annoyed because I told them upfront this wasn’t something I wanted to be roped into. It feels like they’re trying to guilt-trip me into loving something I never asked for.

So, AITA for not wanting to go to the cottage and feeling resentful about being pressured?

more context: I've been there 3 times already. its just not homey to me. I also am going to be working in the summer so my weekends are going to the only time i can relax and sitting in a car for a total of 6 hours only to be at the cottage for 2 days isn't worth it. it's not relaxing. my parents and sisters also tend to watch movies and stuff late at night and there isn't really a place where i have quiet