A lot of these questions I see pose situations serious enough that the consideration of how it may characterize your behavior or make you look feels irrelevant. Other times it’s important TBTAH for another AH to get the seriousness of what they did.

If you are in danger, feeling threatened, physically uncomfortable or like your established boundaries are being violated, go ahead and BTAH. Your right to safety and boundaries supersedes needing to NBTAH.