So basically me(19f) have never got along with my family even when I was a kid. They always harassed me and made fun of me for my weight because I was over weight most my life even now. I used to be happy and healthy until I was SAed at 6yrs old after that I always had the burden to just keep quite and never really talk to anyone because it just reminded me of how many of my cousins SAed me and I couldn’t face them. When I tried telling people like my aunties or uncles they never believed me. My cousins(22f) knew but never defended me so I grew up resenting most of my family. Recently I was talking about kids with my cousin who I was very close with and grew up with basically like siblings. She knew about my past and why I don’t like our side of the family. But once I told her I never wanted them to meet my kids, she started to berate me and say that I shouldn’t take my past resentment against my kids and keep them away from my family. Knowing my family they never liked me or wanted anything to do with me so I thought it wouldn’t have mattered. She preceded to try and compare her problems with them to mine. She was also SAed by some of our cousins as well but never as much as me because she had the courage to actually stick up for herself while I couldn’t because I never had the courage to. Then I tried to explain that they never cared about my life and always made fun of me and that they’d probably make fun of my kids as well. I didn’t want that for my kids so I was set on my decision to not let my future kids meet them. (My boyfriend (21m) agrees with me). I talked to my mom about this and she seemed more supportive considering she grew up basically like their slave to my grandparents and her siblings. She had to clean, stay home when they went to fairs and family outings, and do their homework etc.. So she understands where I come from. I go to therapy for what happened to me back then so I’m healed and am in the right mind space to make this decision and I don’t think it’ll change soon. So AITA for not wanting my future kids to meet my mom’s side of the family?