I, 25 F, Am planning to up-root myself right out of my parents life. Im not sharing their gender because they are chronically online (and god forbid this blows up LOL)

To spare you the details this parent has never been emotionally present in my life and has caused me immense amounts of stress and trauma throughout my entire life. from getting their stable and perfect family evicted from our home for due to not paying the mortgage, loosing their job because they slept with their boss's spouse and dumping my mother off at her mothers house while they were with a young child and pregnant. At the same time leaving me homeless at the age of 12-13, forced to house hop with them to every mistress they picked up. Obviously this hasnt left me with the best relationship with said parent and I hasnt built me to be the perfect model of society either. But, unfortunately thats still my parent.

Recently however Their antics have thinned my patience to the bone, I had faith that all this wouldve come to an end after they had their surgery but I was flat out wrong. You see, They had kidney Disease, so, while I could understand them being a tad dickish due to the immense amount of stress, depression, and life altering woes, the way their acting now is just insane. last month they had surgery, to receive a new kidney, you would think that having a new lease on life would make you change your ways right? WRONG. After the procedure, me and my mom, their ex wife were the main ones taking care of them. all the while smiling and being happy for them. They were making claims of how much their going to change and how great thing are going to get and how they plan to be a happier and better person!..... The reality however, Is that their becoming worse than before. Every single time they leave the house I'm being met with texts and calls about how their were so aggressive and annoying while out. claiming strangers had attitudes with them(they didnt), saying how they needed to calm down before they hurt someone (they wont/cant), nit- picking and just making a huge fuss for no damn reason. Just outright angry at the world.

They recently when out to the movies and to get ice cream with my sibling, mom, and other friends everyone siting around talking having a good time, except said parent, and it got to a point to where my brother asked our family friend to take them home because said parent ruined the vibe of their outing.

There have been WAY more instances like these but that would require a college level essay.

Now heres the kicker. Im currently injured. spare you the details but I am currently unable to walk and this issue could can last a couple hours or several days, this parent knows this. Now, we have a dog, a dog I 1000% percent take care of day in and day out. I am unable to take the dog out when my foot gets like this, this parent knows this. I asked them to take the dog out last night because I was doubled over in pain, they did it, but acted as if I had burdened their entire existence, Keep in mind, I'm their fucking daughter, not some goddamn roommate. Just to be clear, They are completely of able body again and have been cleared by their doctors to be able to drive and be out again. This morning my foot was still on the frits as I hobbled my chonky body to the bathroom. They know I take the dog out every single morning as soon as i wake up. So, Instead of checking on me, asking if I needed anything, taking parental status and being supportive..

They left. they just up and left. not a word, no good morning, no hey, not a fuck you, nothing. And before anyone thinks that maybe they didnt hear me. We live in a run down dingy apartment our walls are thin and our rooms are right next to one another. Now... I, along side my mother when she stopped by, have been taking care of them, Im the reason their health was good and I was cooking none stop, Making sure they had a meal with their meds, I scrubbed this hell home top to bottom the best my 5'2 ass could while they were in the hospital to make sure they wouldnt get sick, I completely cleared their room, mopped their floor, PUT TOGETHER A NEW BED FRAME AND MATTRESS FOR THEM, and went out of my way to support their GFM, sharing it with my community and getting their fund up to 2k in the first 2 weeks....

Yet, you didnt even think to help me?

Now the Plot twist is, I'm leaving. They dont know but I'm moving states, I got approved for an apartment and a new job so I'll be disappearing in May. This experience has kind of been just.. too much to bare with their emotional unavailability, the fact that they think the world owes them and everyone I MEAN EVERYONE is out to get them, especially the people that love them, even after said parent has ruined their lives. Im tired of being the middle man, the on who has swallowed my traumas and my anger and my worst feelings still to take care of someone who never once thought and truly acted upon doing better not only for me but for my younger siblings. I could care less about our relationship atp and a part of me has tried to make them better for the sake of their younger more vulnerable kids... but I'm over it.

Im disgusted and honestly so disappointed in the behavior they've taken on, even after being given a literal second chance at life at the cost of someone else's.... for me that is whats really sticking with me... you dont value the life that has left in order for you to continue being a POS... it sickening and the more I think about it the more comfortable I am with distancing myself and unbinding myself from this person. I was the glue that connected them to the rest of their kids. My sibling love me and they tolerated our parent because of me. But if they want to go around thinking no one wants anything to do with them, well then, I guess they'll get exactly what they asked for... so AITA?