So a little backstory. About 4 years ago I had an accident while cooking which resulted in my severing part of the median nerve in my wrist, as a result I lost most my sensation in my hand and some of my strength due to the neuropathic pain. It has took a time for me to get used to not using my dominant hand as much and learning to use my left hand more.

My friend and two other colleagues are leaving the place I work and moving on to a new job. My friend suggested that we go bowling and everyone jumped at the idea excitedly. I mentioned that I might find it difficult as I can not use my dominat hand to lift the bowling ball, to which my friend said "just use your left hand". I have never attempted to do this and felt a little embarrassed been the only one with any issue, so I asked if we could have the side/bumpers up on the side of the lane for me so I had a chance of not gutterballing every ball. My friend and a collegue said no, they were going to 'play like adults' without the sides up. This made me feel embarrassed so I didnt respond. My friend then said I could just come along and watch.

That night I was talking to my teenage daughter about how I felt and they were saying I could still go I could use the ramp to help me roll the ball or have the sides up. I explained rhe conversation about playing 'like an adult' and my daughter said it should not be so difficult for them to make accommodations for my disability if they cared ro have me there.

When my friend added me to the whataapp group for bowling, I messaged to say I would be leaving the group (which I did) because I was not able to go without adjustments that they were not happy to accommodate.

My friend messaged me seprately after I left the group to say " Heyyy, i thought you were coming just to hang out? I knew you werent gonna bowl!"

I feel embarrassed because I feel like I made a big deal, and upset because I dis really want to bowl but they would not make it possible for me to do so.

They are now being a bit weird and off with me... and I feel I should have just gone along to hang out and not tried to get accommodations when it was only me that needed them.

Edit: I am dyslexic I appologise for any spelling errors.