I’m part of a friend group of 7, and one of them (let’s call her A) has been draining all of us for a while now. She constantly trauma dumps on me because I studied psych, but I’ve told her repeatedly I’m not a therapist and she needs actual help. Her excuse is always “my mom won’t let me.”

She’s claimed to have a lot of mental disorders — BPD, autism, ADHD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, asthma without getting tested. She got an inhaler via a friend because she was dying without it. I told her how dangerous it was to use any type of medical stuff WITHOUT a proper prescription but she insisted she has it. And she also brags about K-pop merch and going to 4 concerts this year, while also saying she’s being abused at home. None of it adds up.

She acts out, is mean to people, lies constantly, and uses her mental health as an excuse every time. She once showed our private group chat (with some dumb stickers about a teacher) to the actual teacher, and laughed about it while one of our friends was panicking. When we called her out, she lied to our faces — even though the chat was open on her laptop.

She constantly makes everything about her, talks over people, touches us without consent, and never takes accountability. When she does say sorry, it’s half-assed or she laughs while saying it. She’s made fun of personal stuff people have gone through — including something traumatic I opened up about — and didn’t care.

Last week, we finally had enough. She tried to come back into the group after ghosting us, but only messaged the people who are too scared to stand up to her. The rest of us sent her a message saying we’re done unless she gets real help and stops acting like this.

She immediately turned it on us and said we were in the wrong. Now it’s been a week and I’m stuck feeling guilty, wondering if she’s going to hurt herself or spin the story against us. But also? I’m tired. She sucked the energy out of a lot of us especially me, made everything about her, and we were constantly walking on eggshells not sure what to say because she was mentally fragile and almost instantly cries at confrontation.

Not sure how to feel. I cut her off for my own sanity, but now I feel like the bad guy. Did I go too far?