I (26f) have been close friends with, let’s call her, Lucy (29f) for the past 4/5 years. We are both married and she has 2 kids. We usually hang out at her house 1-2x per week to talk, gossip, and smoke the devils lettuce.

Off topic but kind of related: Lucy’s husband Todd (35m) is often the topic of our discussions because drinks at least a 24pk of natty light a day and doesn’t treat her well once he’s had a few (mostly verbal abuse but sometimes physical). He dropped out of high school in 9th grade. He also only works 12 hours a week at an under the table job. She has tried to leave him several times before and always goes back “for the kids” in hopes he will change, which he does, temporarily. I’ve always stuck by her side no matter what she chooses to do because at the end of the day she’s the only one who can know what’s best for her and her children.

Now my problem with our friendship ship is that it seems very one sided from my perspective. For example, here’s how our interaction went this weekend: Friday Lucy called me, I couldn’t pick up right away so she left me a voicemail saying “If I do not have lunch or breakfast with my best friend this weekend I'm gonna lose my shit. I'm just letting you know I came home crying from work every day this week and I got cussed out this morning at the gas station. So you better call me back love you bye.” I shoot her a text later once I’m done with work “I just got your message lol. Call me when you get off work.” She doesn’t call me back. Saturday she texts me and asked if I will watch her kids while her and her husband go do something for a couple hours. I told her yes but I had plans 12-2 so it would have to be before or after that. No text back. So I text again after a couple hours and ask if she still wants me to watch them. She finally text back a few hours later and said no they changed their plans. I tell her ok and to let me know when she’s not busy so we can hang out. I get no text back.

This is just one example but that is typically how our interactions go. If I call/text her, she rarely answers or leaves me on read but if she calls me and I don’t answer her and her husband will blow up my phone. If I contact her to hang out, I 9 times out of 10 will get left on read. Another example - Christmas, I got her, her kids and her husband all gifts (nothing expensive it was like a basket of dollar tree goodies). I did not expect something in return but she said that she was working on my gift and would give it to me the week after. I never received anything which is fine but like why would you say anything at all.

It just seems to me like she is expects me to be available to her at anytime but whenever I initiate contact or want to hang out I get left on read. Like I really enjoy whenever we do hang out, we have similar interests and outlooks, I love her kids and dogs, but the friendship feels like I’m the only one putting in effort. I’m tired of being left on read. AITA for wanting to cut her off?