Hello, Reddit! My name is Odette (23F) and my wedding to my amazing fiancé Benjamin (24M) is set in just a few months! Benjamin and I met at Harvard, when I was freshman and he was sophomore. He was like my Logan Huntsberger, caring, handsome, but also incredibly reckless and adventurous. He proposed to me at my graduation party, and I immediately said yes. There's a few things you should know about us, though.

We both live in a town not unlike Hartford (sorry, making a lot of Gilmore Girls references), where the expectation is to go to Harvard, Princeton or Yale, then get married and have one, maybe two children. The male is expected to work in Insurance, at his father's company, and the female can either be a housewife, or have a successful job in a career such as journalism, performing arts, or some kind of not completely stable career, so you still have time for parties with the women's club. We both have no problem following this - infact I am extremely grateful that I don't have to work if I don't want to, and I know that many people don't have that choice.

Our families know each other well, but we only really got to know each other at Harvard. His sister Danielle is like my own sister, and I can't be more excited to be her sister in law. My future mother in law, though, well she is very controlling over us.

She has told me countless times that now we are merging families and fulfilling our duties, we cannot ruin our reputation, which is why I am writing this post. You see, I'm best friends with our resident Lorelai (Gilmore Girls reference again, sorry!), also known as Kacey. Kacey now runs a small but successful bakery, where I go to have cups of coffee with some of the younger members of the women's club who actually like Kacey.

The elder members, for example, my mother in law, think of Kacey as a failure, and someone who will ruin our reputation, which is why she demands I cut ties with her. I've spoken to my mother, my future sister in law and Benjamin about this, but I don't know what to do. MIL tells me that I must "fulfill family duties" but can I do that if it means saying goodbye to my best friend?

I decided no, and I told MIL this, and she went livid. She told me she no longer gives her blessing, and that I have no sense of respect, and that I should go to hell. My future FIL is siding with me though, so I didn't think her threats were real. I thought they were empty, nothing to worry about. But that's when I got a call that the flower arrangements were going to be cancelled, and that my paperwork was trying to be changed in someone else's name. It was when I looked at the suggested changes that I saw that it had been changed by my MIL to make the venue, the wedding, everything for my cousin in law, Serina, who has hated me since day one. Her wedding was supposed to be next year, but MIL was trying to get into the paperwork and change it to our name.

I want nothing to do with that sick woman, but I want to marry my soul mate. Even if Serina and MIL try and ruin it all for me.

So, AITA for refusing to cut off my best friend to "keep our reputation"?