So my (28f) brother (31m) is sick with an auto immune disease, and chemo is hard on him. I found out last night it's a lot worse than anyone was telling me. My dad lives 4 hours away from my brother and 4.5 hours from me (I live 8.5 hours away from my brother. My dad told me he is coming to me and his wife's daughter in my city. He comes to visit often. Once I found out last night how bad it was, I was mad at my dad for choosing to come here when his son is getting no support and dying. My dad said, "I've gone a couple times". To be clear, my dad and his wife visit my city 3-4 times at least in a year. I asked my brother how many times my dad had been there. And he said once in the last year. Well, I'm pissed. Mad no one told me how bad it was, and at the audacity my father has. Now I texted my dad telling him he needs to go see my brother that weekend instead of coming here. We'll his response was "not much I can do there". So, I've decided if he comes here, I will not see him, and I will tell him that honestly. It'll blow up in a huge fight. I have a phone call scheduled with my brother tonight to find out the extent of his situation and how I can help, or at least be an emotional support. But yeah... AITA for not seeing my dad when he comes to my city?