I went to a high school friend's wedding recently. I’ve stayed in touch with a few people from high school. I’m a fairly quiet person and didn’t really have the “popular” high school experience. I mainly kept to myself and my few friends.

At the wedding, I ended up sitting next to someone from high school (let’s call her Sarah) who was not nice to me back then. She would make snide comments, tell other people she thought I was “boring” or “too lame” to hang out then and generally not a good person. It wasn’t just the occasional comment; she was pretty relentless at times, and it left a mark.

As luck would have it, I ended up being seated next to Sarah at the reception. when Sarah started talking to me, I just made basic small talk about where we live now, do we go back to our hometown, etc. There was a pause in the conversation after 5 minutes and she started asking me about “tell me what you’re into now since you didn’t really do anything in high school. Do you have hobbies?” I got super triggered and told her, “you know, I’m actually not interested in sharing more about myself. We weren’t friends in high school and we are only chatting now since we have to sit next to each other. I don’t think I owe you any friendly conversations. Let’s just end it at that and enjoy the rest of the night.”

She seemed stunned at first and didn’t say much after that, but I could tell she was angry. Fast forward a bit, and she went to the bride the next day (who’s a mutual friend) and told her what happened, saying I ruined her night and made her feel terrible. The bride texted me and said that I needed to apologize to Sarah because it “wasn’t the time or place” to bring up our past and that I had ruined Sarah’s night and hurt her feelings.

I honestly don’t think I did anything wrong. I didn’t yell at Sarah or get overly dramatic; I just told her I wasn’t interested in talking because of how she treated me back then. I’m not trying to cause drama, but I don’t think I should have to pretend everything’s okay when it wasn’t.

The bride is really upset, and now I feel like I’ve caused a huge issue at the wedding when all I did was be honest about my feelings. AITA for not wanting to engage with someone who was mean to me in high school, even though it was at a wedding?

TL;DR: Sat next to a person at a wedding who was cruel to me in high school. Told them I wasn’t interested in talking because of how they treated me. They got mad, told the bride, and now the bride wants me to apologize. AITA?