I (f/21) live with 3 other girls in an apartment off-campus. I knew 2 of the girls in my first year of college (both f/21&22) and the other girl is a random (f/21). I come from a household where it was normal to clean every day and deep clean once EVERY weekend. Of course, I don't expect my roommates to have the same cleaning habits as I do, but you would think they would clean up after themselves.

I noticed that when moving in, our common area, specifically the kitchen was filthy and no one did anything about it. I had to call the office about the issues and I had to deep clean all the appliances. As months go on, I noticed when someone cooks, they don't clean as they go. They leave dirty cooking utensils on the stove where their food sometimes stays for hours upon hours. I try to turn a side eye to most of it because we are all adults. Even with the fridge, stuff spills or becomes old, but they never clean it out. I have to essentially remind them that their food isn't looking too good. Then no one sweeps! I brought the issues of cleaning to all of them during our first week living there ( Aug. 22'). I suggested we wipe down the counters every night and sweep the floors. Roommate B quickly opposed and said, "isn't that too much cleaning?". We never reached a resolution because it always felt like 3 against 1, even though roommates L and W didn't express how they felt, I could tell right away by their body language and quietness. Ever since then, I swiftly clean the kitchen once a week by wiping the counters, sweeping, and doing the little dishes in the sink. It takes me all of 15 minutes on my slow days. I honestly don't understand the concept of NOT cleaning.

And here's the kicker! One day we had a small roach in our living room. The kitchen was as usual with crumbs on the counter and unswept floors. Once roommate L killed the roach, she suddenly turned into a "clean freak" and started to clean up. During that time, I had left a pizza box on the counter for no more than an hour (because it couldn't fit in the trash) and she demanded I take it to the trash shoot. As I was telling her "okay, I'll get to it". Not even a second later she uttered "(my name) now" like she was my mother or something. I got up and threw it away and she apologized with her reason being "when I see a roach I turn into a clean freak" and went on a rant about how we can end up with an infestation if we don't keep a clean space. Well as I took the pizza box to the trash shoot, I found trash piling up from other residents with the trash shoot wide open, and guess what was crawling out of the shoot door... ROACHES! I went and told her and she said, "oh! well we still need to take precautions". The next day, there were crumbs on the stove and oatmeal in the skink, all from roommate L.

Today, Jan 27th I took it upon myself to AGAIN deep clean the fridge, microwave, and under the sink. I got a bit fed up because I caught myself cleaning up after grown-ass people. The next morning I brought the issues up with roommates L and W. I suggested that we start a cleaning schedule and we take turns wiping the counters and sweeping the floors each night so the kitchen can stay clean. I also suggested that 'cleaning as we cook' would make cleaning 10x easier. Both roommates stood with quietness and didn't respond. Roommate L sort of iced me out for the day which was expected. There are many more instances where roommate L has a problem with cleanliness. She leaves used tinfoil in the air fryer and k-pods in the Keurig for 2 days straight.

To add to that, I also let roommate L use some of my oatmeal (the big Quaker one), and she ate everything along with brown sugar. I understand I let her use some from time to time, but she ate EVERYTHING. Just buy your own if you eat oatmeal that much. I'm not mad that I didn't eat the oatmeal, I'm mad at the fact that she didn't think "okay, this is enough. let me stop before I eat all the oatmeal". She didn't even save me the last serving. At this point, I'm tired of her. Surprisingly she is one of my close friends, so I don't know why I can't talk to her upfront.

In the end, I have so many unresolved issues with my roommates. Every time I bring up the issues, there's no compromise or they act like they don't care. I honestly don't know what I'm gonna do. I signed my lease for next year (jul. 23'-jul. 24') with the same roommates. God, please bless me.

I honestly don't understand. Do they not feel embarrassed when they bring company over and the common area is messy?!? Roommates L and W both have boyfriends too (which is a bigger problem in itself), do they not feel embarrassed when the kitchen looks gross?