I (29f) was supposed to be getting married last year but my dad died days before the wedding and I couldn't go through with it. Luckily the venue we had chosen were willing to reschedule us at short notice on compassionate grounds. Our new wedding date is this summer.

My mom's husband announced a couple of weekends ago that he won't be coming to my wedding. I said okay and moved on in the conversation I was having with someone else. He was seething with rage over my response and asked me if okay was really all I could say. No question about why or trying to change his mind. I told him I had expected this and he basically told me he'd do this last year anyway so why would I pretend to be shocked or beg.

To provide some more context my mom married her husband when I was 15. I didn't get to know him before the wedding so I met him at 15. I don't consider him a father figure and I never called him my stepdad. My older siblings felt the same way. He never put much effort in with them because they were 18 and 21 when he married mom so I guess he felt like they were fine without him. But it always felt kinda weird because I wasn't some little kid either and I had an involved dad.

Last year added some tension. He ended up in the hospital two weeks before the wedding and would not have made it if the day had gone ahead then. He was bitter that I rescheduled because dad died but not so he could be there. There were also some hard feelings over me planning to walk down the aisle and dance with dad and not him. He bitched about it a few weeks after dad died and said he wouldn't come if he was so unimportant. At the time I said nothing because my grief was fresh.

But now I'm just like okay. Because I don't care if he's there or not. I really don't. His presence will not make or break my wedding. He felt like I should have argued for him to come and mom said my okay was dismissive and rude.

AITA?