My wife and I have built a decent life for ourselves. She is a work from home nurse and I am an engineer. I am big on personal and professional growth, and unfortunately on the professional side of things, I feel I have hit a dead end for my career path in terms of opportunities (test engineer).

My wife on the other hand has had opportunities presented to her (that she is qualified for) through networking connections and family members that would give her between a $40k-$50k/year pay increase. When presented with those opportunities, she said “I don’t want any handouts; I want to work for mine” (with an attitude). It boiled my blood.

We are currently in debt due to some unfortunate circumstances and having an extra $3,500/month from a salary increase would be greatly beneficial; not for only paying down debt in two years, but also being able to enjoy a bit of financial freedom, take trips with the family and make business investments in the long run.

I currently uber on the side to help pitch towards this debt; just a couple hundred a month. She has floated the idea of working a night job as a nurse, but it makes absolutely no sense to me. She works from home from 7a-3:30p (she is micromanaged in a sense and for someone who works from home, she has no flexibility whatsoever; she is GLUED in front of her computer for the work she does). She would then sleep for two hours, work a 7p-3a shift, come home, sleep for 2-3 hours and start her day job again. I feel like this is not a sustainable way of living and is very detrimental to long-term health. This can burn a person out in a very short time.

Common sense, in my mind, would be to take a huge pay increase and still keep your 8 hour day shift. Only con is you lose the ability to work from home, but I feel a steep pay increase like that would outweigh this con.

I shared two job listings again to her and she mentioned that “she’s not interested”.

I’m pretty pissed right now because I feel like I am stuck with a person who doesn’t care to grow professionally and I feel like me and the kids are getting shafted out of financial opportunities by being stuck in this mindset and thought process. My blood boils even more than ever.

AITA for feeling this way about her thought process?