So, there’s this girl in my “friend group”—let’s call her Maya—who’s made it very clear for a long time that she doesn’t like me. I’ve always tried to be civil, even nice, because she’s extremely manipulative and has a way of getting people on her side. I didn’t want to lose my friends.

But she constantly talks crap about everyone. One day, she started talking trash about Jasmine—a girl who she pretends to be close to—and Emily, who’s been through a lot emotionally. That crossed a line for me.

So I told Jasmine and Emily what Maya had said. I didn’t twist anything. I repeated the conversation word for word. I felt like they deserved to know, especially Jasmine—because Maya acts like they’re tight.

Not long after, Maya made a group chat with everyone from the friend group (except me at first), and then added me just to blow up on me in front of everyone. Here’s how that went down, names changed for privacy but everything else is exact:

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Maya: No one here has the right story. So before yall continue to talk about me l’m gonna tell you what happened. Monday morning when Leah was here (Leah is a witness) Emily started yelling at Leah about how Ava now knows her (Emily’s) crush. Then Emily said “you guys are morons and you never keep your fucking mouths shut” and it was only me and Leah at the table, mind you I didn’t know who this crush was. So I started yelling back. I said “you better not be fucking talking about me I didn’t say shit. Why are you being such an asshole this morning” and thus began the spiral. Later that day at lunch, I did absolutely crash out and started shit talking Emily. But not for no reason. She was really mean to Leah and I, so I was telling Riya and she was agreeing with me. And yes it derailed. Little did me and Riya know that there was a snooper at our table. Rachel. There has been another time she had eves dropped and she acts like a spy for whatever reason. Idk. Anyway. Rachel overheard (I’m not quiet) and she went straight to Emily and told her. Emily was told during English I and she started crying to Keisha. Then, it was the end of math class and Emily was trying to make Tonya not walk with me because Emily was upset with me. So thats when she was on her way to lunch. She went to lunch and shit talked me. Jasmine had tried to explain to Emily that Rachel exaggerates things. Emily didn’t wanna listen. So she started saying that I treat her badly. Which I don’t know why I would have a reason to treat her badly, it might be because she’s mean to me? But that doesn’t matter right now. ANYWAY jasmine had texted me this (during 5th period which is their lunch and my history class) and I was really confused because I didn’t treat her badly and the example she used was her fault because she was cussing me out? Again, i dont pop off unless theres a reason. But then I started going off again, in history this time (I’m not quiet) and someone recorded me I think, it was Carter I’m pretty sure. So he sent that to Ava, and got her involved. So then she texted in a gc with her (Ava) Leah , Rachel, and Kylie . They started talking (Ava and Rachel) about how I’m manipulative? Insane? Need to be bullied? so idk but it sounds like someone didn’t need to be involved cough cough Ava Overall this seriously shouldn’t have gone this far. Carter shouldn’t have recorded me Ava shouldn’t have been involved, and I shouldn’t have shit talked. If you guys need to add anything, go right on ahead.

Ava: he didn’t send it to anyone I told him not to. I told me jasmine and Carter that there is no reason we need to be involved.

Maya: Thank you.

Ava: So I’m sorry idk why any of this is happening anyways.

Maya: Idk why either. But I also dk why you said all of that shit about me.

Ava: According to some of your friends you shit talk me all the time which I’d really appreciate if that didn’t happen. There’s nothing wrong between us and there doesn’t need to be.

Me: Me too.

Maya: Your right about that I’m sorry to you Ava. Stfu Rachel, I’m not done with you. You have been such a horrible person all year to everyone. Do not for a second think that I’m going to forget that. You need to apologize to a lot of people Rachel.

Me: Really Maya. I’m in math right now.

Maya: Ava, I really appreciate your understanding in this.

Me: But I’ll talk later.

Ava: I’ll ask Sawyer to delete the recording im sorry he did that.

Maya: It’s fine, I get it. I’m a lil crazy He was probably just thinking about Emily Or something.

Ava: Yeah but like he had no right to do that.

Me: Let’s get into this, first of all I do know you talk so much crap about me and I have my sources that have told me.

Maya: Ya I was like really shocked.

Me: And genuinely I don’t know why you don’t like me I’ve done nothing but try to be nice to you but at one point I’m done.

Maya: I forgive him tho.

Me: Now I’m hearing stuff out of context but it’s still crap about people I consider my friends.

Maya: Rachel, you haven’t been nice. Shut that actual fuck up.

Me: Tell me one thing.

Maya: I literally made amends with Ava. I don’t like you. SHUT UP. No I don’t gotta tell you shit. You’re an asshole.

Me: exactly

Maya: exactly what?

Me: That should tell people a lot about what is happening but anyways.

Maya: That I don’t fucking like you, because you’re an asshole Ya, that’s exactly it.

Me: And you’ve yet to provide a reason why. But anyways Let’s move on If I hear crap talked about my friends I’m telling them.

Maya: Ya let’s move on from this.

Me: It’s not anything personal against you.

Maya: Whatever Rachel.

Me: But even if it’s outside context it’s crap And you can’t blame me for that Because I have a moral backbone, compassion and loyalty towards my friends So genuinely you have no place to be mad at me if you talk crap about me all the time, have no reason to dislike me besides “you’re an asshole” with no evidence, and talk crap about my friends and expect me not to tell anyone Understood? I don’t want to have beef with you But you haven’t liked me for absolutely no reason And I genuinely don’t understand it and honestly don’t care, but if you’re going to call me out in front of all my friends I’m gonna talk The fact that I tell the truth is not dramatic, it’s the truth, I have not dramatized the truth in any way shape or form And I mean this in the most respectful way possible Also it’s eavesdropped Not eves dropped I exaggerated nothing btw and just said the exact conversation That I overheard I don’t exaggerate when recounting. And half the text chain was taken out of context So you can’t rely on that.

Riya: not for sure certain but I think it was a little over exaggerated because all I remember was Maya telling me what happened and we moved on in like 2 minutes, so at least on monday there was no shit talking at all but like i think this whole thing is just a huge misunderstanding with miscommunication.

Me: The thing is I didn’t just say she talked shit about you I told her the small conversation that took two minutes.

Maya: Did you just correct me? I don’t give 2 shits how it’s spelled.

Me: I do admit that I told her but it was because of the harmful content in it

Maya: The fuck is wrong with you You didn’t just tell her bud. You literally made it so that you were going against me and Priya.

Me: I don’t know but you seem to know so why don’t you enlighten me It was unintentional.

Maya: Fuck that I think you’re an asshole. And so does everyone else I’ve been putting up with your annoyingness FOR SO LONG I’m done, I’m telling you. No hints. No signals. I don’t fucking like you.

Me: Maya I realize what I did was wrong, and I’m willing to apologize not for telling but for upsetting you.

Maya: Unintentional my ass cheeks.

Me: Well it’s not like you’re slick about it.

Maya: You’re right I’m not. But you never took the hint.

Me: Also annoyingness isn’t even a word Trust me I didn’t Did But I tried to make you like me anyways.

Maya: Did you? Also, I don’t remember doing ANYTHING to you. so why the fuck were you saying that shit about me? What the fuck is wrong with you bro

Me: Every time you were around I didn’t wanna leave you out so I gave you chocolate I tried being nice to you

Maya: So the fuck what I don’t accept pity

Me: But all you did was exclude me, Talk crap about me Girl did you mean accept or expect

Maya: I don’t fucking like you THAT WAS ME GIVING YOU A HINT

Me: WHY

Maya: Accept.

Me: I WASN’T GIVING PITY I GENUINELY WANTED TO BE YOUR FRIEND TOO

Maya: WELL I DON’T WANT THAT I. Don’t. Fucking. Like. You.

Me: Again, you’ve yet to give me a reason why

Maya: And do not ask me why, I don’t need to give you a reason. Funny The shit you said in that fucking gc was low Rachel. I don’t fucking like you and now I like you much much less

Me: Again

Maya: Send this shit to everyone idc. I apologized when I was wrong. I ain’t apologizing for not fucking liking you.

Me: don’t expect one But the fact that you try to call me in the wrong when I really wasn’t is not acceptable

Maya: Oh it’s not. What ever shall we do I literally do not like bro.

Me: That’s great for you I genuinely don’t care

Maya: So for everyone’s sake literally stfu and go find a different friend group because if you haven’t noticed no one likes you. DAMN Well then, that’s great for you.

Tonya: also Emily said she can’t see any of these texts

Riya: yeah but me and Sonya were talking to her on the way out and cleared up all the confusion

Maya: Ok.

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And THEN during a debate tournament, Tonya literally made me type out an apology to Maya, saying:

“I just wanted to say I’m sorry for the above texts. I got upset but now I’ve had time to think over it. I didn’t mean to create so much drama and realize my mistake. I thought I was doing the right thing by telling Emily about your conversation with Riya but I guess that caused more problems than necessary. Next time I won’t be so involved in things that aren’t my business. I apologize for hurting your feelings and I truly do wish we can move on from this.”

Since then? Half my friend group has iced me out. The other half pretends they like me. And not a single one of them stood up for me in the group chat. Everyone comforted Maya or stayed silent. ( Side note: the gc that she was referring to , it was Ava who called her manipulative while I mostly just listened and then said then she needs to be bullied part as a reference to she needs to be humbled for her own good, that’s the only mean thing I’ve actually said about her) So, Reddit: AITA for telling a friend she was being talked about behind her back? Was I wrong to get involved? Or was this all an overreaction?