So I (27F) have a cousin, Emma (25F), who’s been dating this guy for like 8 months now. Nothing wrong with him personally — he’s quiet, kinda awkward, doesn’t really talk to anyone — but she brings him to every family event. Like even the small, casual ones. Dude’s practically more present than some of our actual uncles.

I didn’t say anything at first because, okay, honeymoon phase and all. But last week we had a family dinner for my dad’s birthday. It was supposed to be just close family — even some long-term partners stayed home. And she shows up with him again, without warning. My mom had to pull up an extra chair mid-meal, it was that awkward.

After dinner, I pulled her aside and said (nicely, I swear) that not every event has to include her boyfriend. I told her it’s getting a little much and that sometimes it’s okay to just… be with your family. She did not take it well. Said I was being mean and trying to "exclude" her relationship. Now she’s icing me out and told my aunt I embarrassed her.

A few other family members said they kinda agree but didn’t want to be the one to bring it up. So now I’m wondering — was I out of line? Should I have just kept quiet to keep the peace?

AITA?