Around 5 years ago I (18F, then 13F) got my hair cut by my grandma, my initial idea was getting a longer pixie cut but a little different (similar to a Karen but just a little longer, basically half way between my chin and ears.), but my grandma suggested that I get a full pixie cut instead because it will look more flattering on me, I declined but she did so anyway. I was fuming! Luckily at the start it wasn't too bad, that unfortunately only stuck around for a few days as the first wash I did afterr it had been cut, the whole of my hair decided to poof up into a birds nest. I’ll provide an image.

I was bullied at school for almost a year afterwards because my hair was taking ages to grow back. I felt humiliated. I tried so much stuff to try minimalize the dreadful look of my hair. Luckily, in the July the year after it had been cut it managed to become a decent length and I was able to find the perfect hair products to use so my hair doesn't become in that mess again. it's been 5 years - like I said at the beginning - now my hair looks full fresh and healthy. I haven't let anyone apart from my mom do my hair because she knows where to stop when it comes to cutting my hair, which is basically just my dead ends.

Recently my grandma has asked if she can cut my hair again because it looked so beautiful last time. She knows I was made fun of last time and the extent of it. I politely declined and told her that I don't really want my hair doing right now because it was done a week prior, but she insisted saying that "it would look so good if you had the pixie cut again, it's the best your hair has ever looked!" At that point I just lost it, I said in a stern voice "I don't want my hair cut again by anyone but my mom, do you remember what happened last time, I got bullied. Because you didn't listen to me and my opinion. I don't want to go through that experience again." This point she just looked at me with disgust, I felt ashamed of how I acted because I have never spoken to any of the elders (as in people over 70) in my family like that before. I just said I was going to leave.

Later that evening I got a call from lots of my family members saying that I was completely out of order for saying that, and how they were disgusted with me. So AITA?