I (26F) have been planning a trip with my friends for months. We all saved up, booked the flights and accommodations, and requested time off work way in advance. It’s not even a wild party trip — just a peaceful getaway to the mountains, something we’ve all really needed after a stressful year.

The problem started when I told my mom (54F) about the dates. She suddenly got really quiet and then asked, “So you’re not coming home that week?” I told her no, that this was a special trip, and I’d be back the following weekend. She got upset and said I “always choose friends over family” and that she “guesses she’ll just be alone.” For context, I usually visit her a lot. I spent all major holidays with her, and even stayed over the entire winter break last year.

I reminded her of that and told her this isn’t personal — it’s just something I really want to do. But now she’s making passive-aggressive comments to my siblings about how I “abandoned” her. My brother even texted me saying I should just “change the dates and make mom happy.”

I feel like I’m being guilt-tripped for having a life outside of being a daughter. I love my mom, but I don’t think it’s fair to cancel something important to me just to avoid her disappointment.

AITA for refusing to cancel my trip?