I (26F) have always had a complicated relationship with my mom. She’s not a bad person, but she’s always been hyper-focused on appearances — especially weight. Growing up, she’d make comments like, “Are you sure you want seconds?” or “That dress would look better if you lost five pounds.” I internalized a lot of that, and I’ve struggled with body image for most of my life.

Now that I’m an adult and living on my own, I try to set boundaries. I’ve gained some weight in the last year due to stress and a medical issue, but I’ve been doing my best to take care of myself mentally and physically. Still, every time I talk to my mom — whether it’s a phone call or in person — she finds a way to bring up my weight. Last week she said, “You’d be so pretty if you just slimmed down a little,” and that was my breaking point.

I told her firmly that I’m tired of hearing these comments, and that it’s hurting me more than she realizes. I asked her to stop bringing up my body — at all — because I want to have a relationship with her that isn’t rooted in judgment. She got defensive and said she’s “just trying to help” and that I’m being too sensitive.

Now my sister says I embarrassed our mom and should’ve just brushed it off like I usually do. But honestly, I’m exhausted. I don’t think I was rude — just honest and tired of being talked down to like a teenager.

So… AITA for telling my mom to stop commenting on my weight?