I (M24) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (M24) for a little over a year. We have so much in common and our senses of humor really mesh well together. When things are good, which is a good amount of the time, we have a blast and love each other’s company. But gradually and more so lately his mental issues have been eating at me and it’s making me lose any desire to continue the relationship.

He struggles with borderline personality disorder and he has some anger issues. It takes little for him to question his self worth and become extremely upset at himself or extremely depressed. He’s never taken it out at me or even gotten upset with me, but he overthinks everything and it takes so frustratingly little for him to spiral into depression. Even something like him seeing a nice picture I took can make him think I’m much better than him at everything and it can ruin his mood. Or sometimes if I find something he’s looking for before he does, he gets upset at himself. And if I comment on his driving that can set him over the edge.

This has given me a lot of anxiety and lately it’s making me resent him. He has started DBT therapy and he has improved, but he still faces the same issues and even admits himself he’ll probably always struggle with that.

It’s incredibly draining trying to cheer him up every time it happens because this happens a few times a week without fail. It’s especially hard because sometimes he says it makes him think about how he wishes he wasn’t alive, not that he would act on those thoughts. But it’s still draining. It’s eaten at me and now I have almost no energy to be with him or even talk to him. I haven’t wanted to be affectionate with him anymore and I don’t really miss him when he’s gone anymore. I’m scared that I’m too emotionally drained to continue the relationship.

My dilemma is that he has improved noticeably but it’s still not enough to not be draining to be around. Should I stay in hopes that eventually he is better? Or should I just cut my losses and end it. I still love him and we have so much in common so it would be heartbreaking, but his mental issues are just too much for me to handle. But he’s begging for me to keep being patient with him. AITA here?

TLDR me and my bf have an almost perfect relationship except that he struggles with borderline personality disorder which he struggles with a lot. He’s improving but it’s still incredibly draining to be around and I’ve lost almost all desire to be with him. What should I do?