PLEASE READ: Please know that I am fully aware and in agreement that engaging with this man at all was wrong. I am simply asking for feedback on the text exchange. I’m neurodivergent and I can miss things. I genuinely want to know if what I did or said was wrong towards him. Not if the whole thing was wrong in general. In general I should’ve stuck with my initial response from over a month ago which was to fukc off. Again, I AM AWARE I WAS STUPID. I AM ONLY ASKING ABOUT THE TEXT EXCHANGE.

Context: guy is 42, supposedly unhappily married for nearly 20y, with two kids. Pursued me off and on for over a month. I told him I couldn’t, ad nauseam. He was married. It was wrong. I didn’t think we should talk at all.

We start talking again over a month later bc I caved. We were “just talking”, is what I told myself. I believed him when he said him wanting to leave his marriage was there before we met. It was stupid. I was stupid. He quickly loses his shit over something. I honestly don’t remember what, as I deleted the convo. I block him. He messages me from a burner number to apologize. I’m entertained. We continue talking.

He goes back to openly wanting me, on an apparently visceral level. (AGAIN, AGAIN I know that I am also the a$$hole here for continuing to engage.) That happened the morning/afternoon of 4/21/25. That night he seems to disappear. I ask if he’s ok the next morning. He says he wants to end it. My first thought was “I’ve tried to end this with you countless times. NOW you take a hint once I’m nicer”. It was quickly followed by relief. And an audible thanks to God that it was ending without me having to hurt him.

But I was still upset about something: the turnaround. How much he said he wanted me. Repeatedly. Saying I was his. Saying he was going to talk to his wife. Saying he couldn’t ignore this “energy”, this “pull” between us. Constantly bringing up how much he wanted me sexually (to which I truly barely engaged). And then less than 12h later he quickly bows out. I felt lied to. And while I was thrilled it was ending, I was not thrilled at the thought that the whole thing was a lie.

Link to screenshots: https://imgur.com/a/XfVL2UI