I and my partner keep making jokes at each other not but not too frequently. My partner has a habit of suddenly going into a silent treatment mode or getting mad at times over different things which I try to avoid.

Today evening, my partner saw a video of us dancing and was making fun of my moves, there were two videos. I am by default quite embarrassed of my own dancing and avoid dancing. And because I was feeling cringe watching myself dance and on top of that my partner was laughing and pointing out at my different moves I scrolled to a different part of the gallery, when they started insisting to watch the video again, to get out of the situation I turned off the phone.

On which they started saying that now I won't joke with you ever again if you do like this. If we can't make fun of each other whats the point of being so serious. They accused that I have put myself on a pedestal, and doesn't want to be made fun of and pointed that I make fun of them in many situations, to which I said wo both do it when both are having fun. I at this moment in this particular situation just was feeling uncomfortable and embarrassed and don't want it to continue and wanted to get out of it. And there was no reason for them to threaten to not talk or not joke in this relationship.

Then they started on another note that my friends make all kinds of jokes with me when they are together I don't stop their jokes and when my partner is trying to do the same then I am exercising my power over them. On one hand I kept insisting that watching myself dance makes me cringe and the only reason I danced at that point was to make them happy. And dragging my equations with my friends is unfair and I have many years of history with them when we were making fun of each other and even in this situation I didn't object I just tried to get out of it because I wad feeling embarrassed and uncomfortable.

But my partner kept on insisting me of having doube standards. And I kept on saying that I usually play along and in this situation they are throwing tantrums because they didn't get to to do what they wanted

After all this I feel very hurt and uncomfortable sharing company with my friends together with my partner because I feel they are just sitting there and judging all the interactions. And it was totally unfair to say that if they made fun of you, you didn't say anything but because I am your partner, you are exercising your power over me. And I have double standards, I just kept repeating that it was just one situation and a specific moment and I wanted to get out of it.

Am I the asshole to express my discomfort in a situation like this.