This happened a few nights ago and it’s been eating at me ever since. I (23F) have pretty bad anxiety and some serious trust issues stemming from past trauma. I’ve never hidden this. I’m in therapy, I’m working on it, and I try really hard not to let it bleed into my relationship.

My boyfriend (26M) and I have been together for around a year. At first, he seemed understanding. Supportive, even. But over the past few months, he’s been getting more dismissive anytime I express feelings he doesn’t like — brushing off my concerns, calling me “too sensitive,” making jokes like, “You should ask your therapist why you’re so dramatic.”

Anyway. Earlier this week, he told me he was going to a friend’s game night. Totally fine — I even helped him pick out drinks and snacks to bring. He said he’d be back by midnight at the absolute latest.

I sent him two texts during the night just asking if he was okay. I didn’t get anything back. No “hey, running late,” nothing.

He walked in at 2:57am. I was on the couch, trying not to spiral. I calmly asked if everything was alright and mentioned I’d been worried.

He immediately got defensive. He said he and his friends decided to hit up a bar afterward and he “didn’t feel like dealing with clingy texts while he was trying to enjoy himself.” I reminded him he said he’d be home by midnight and I was just checking in. That’s when he rolled his eyes and said something along the lines of:

“God, you always pull this anxious girlfriend crap whenever I have fun without you. It’s manipulative. You use your ‘anxiety’ to control me — but it’s really just your insecurity.”

That hit me like a truck. I stood there, stunned. Then he added:

“You don’t actually have anxiety. You just like attention.”

I didn’t yell. I didn’t cry. I didn’t even respond. I just grabbed my keys, wallet, and left. Drove to my best friend’s place and crashed on her couch. I didn’t text him until the next morning. He had sent a long message saying he “didn’t mean it” and that I was blowing things out of proportion. That he was “just being honest” and “frustrated.”

Now I have friends saying I did the right thing, and others saying I shouldn’t have walked out like that, and that maybe I am being too emotional about it.

But I keep thinking — if someone can say that kind of thing in anger… do they even respect me at all?

So yeah. AITA for walking out instead of “talking it through”?